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Wedding speech, advice needed

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By God's grace, I am getting married in September to a Godly woman.

I am going to do a speech that's about 10 minutes long. In first half of the speech I want to give glory and thanks to the Lord.

I will end my speech with talking about my bride. She has recently asked me to include her now dead mother, who has gone to the Lord 10 years ago, and I am absolutely cluless what to say.

Any advice would be appreciated. Anyone has given a wedding speech and mentioned a dead parent or any other person that is now with the Lord? What did you say?
 

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By God's grace, I am getting married in September to a Godly woman.

I am going to do a speech that's about 10 minutes long. In first half of the speech I want to give glory and thanks to the Lord.

I will end my speech with talking about my bride. She has recently asked me to include her now dead mother, who has gone to the Lord 10 years ago, and I am absolutely cluless what to say.

Any advice would be appreciated. Anyone has given a wedding speech and mentioned a dead parent or any other person that is now with the Lord? What did you say?
Did you know her? If you did you could mention your personal feelings about a memory of you all together and tie it into something you mention about your wife in general. How you know she'd be proud of your wife, how she'd be excited about this day etc. If you don't know her, you can mention something generic like, how she raised her daughter, or characteristics you heared they shared. But focus on the day/event with you and your wife because you don't want part of your speech to be more of a memorial about your future wifes deceased mother.

It's kind of hard to give advice without knowing you, your wife or reading your speech but thats all I can think of. I hope this helps.

1 more thing... if you don't know what to say, ask your future spouse for advice on what to say since it was her request.

Congratulations though :)
 
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As it is important to your wife to say something about her mother, you are right to pursue that. Thank God for her mother, find some things about her and highlight the importance of her mom. That though the mother is not alive, her legacy and good characteristics live on in her daughter and family. So you can't just have your wife say what she thinks, you have to find out some things from her and others and develop some of this yourself. Your goal is to be one with your wife, and part of that oneness is to embrace and respect her family. Your still going to be the leader of your household, though don't say that. But as leader, you want to humble yourself, to recognize the mom's impact and provision that you now are the beneficiary of. I'm going to say too it is not just the words, it is the attitude that will make this precious. May God bless your speech, marriage plans and union together.
 
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