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Today things are not going well. I’m struggling with life so much. Everything just feels so overwhelming… I’ve already been struggling with depression again for over 6 years. My life has slowly but surely been on a steady decline since maybe 2019. I’ve tried so many different things to test if something can make my situation better, but nothing works. I question God and why he is putting me through this. It’s like he’s beating on a dead horse isn’t of “refining” me.. I struggle with drinking and have made an effort to be sober now for a month. I went to a doctor and went on anti depressant medication, I tried changing jobs, what else am I supposed to be doing to help?
Today I’m trying to weld some things together. I’ve been welding for 12 years now. It’s just not working properly.<Staff Edit> So all I’m doing is just dealing with mental anguish that this life is pointless and filled with suffering.. does God enjoy this? Why beat on the horse that’s already dead?
 
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Today things are not going well. I’m struggling with life so much. Everything just feels so overwhelming… I’ve already been struggling with depression again for over 6 years. My life has slowly but surely been on a steady decline since maybe 2019. I’ve tried so many different things to test if something can make my situation better, but nothing works. I question God and why he is putting me through this. It’s like he’s beating on a dead horse isn’t of “refining” me.. I struggle with drinking and have made an effort to be sober now for a month. I went to a doctor and went on anti depressant medication, I tried changing jobs, what else am I supposed to be doing to help?
Today I’m trying to weld some things together. I’ve been welding for 12 years now. It’s just not working properly.. the guy that’s supposed to be “helping” is a complete ahole so you can’t even ask if he’s got trouble shooting advice. So all I’m doing is just dealing with mental anguish that this life is pointless and filled with suffering.. does God enjoy this? Why beat on the horse that’s already dead?
Saying this may or may not help you understand or feel better, but what is happening to you is for GOD's purposes, which may well, (as others can attest to), bring you to see life is not about you, and that you getting to know him better is something he would rather have than mere "obedience" or "Christian victory". If you are IN HIM, it will not show up in even near perfection, but in your need for him and desire for him. You are not anything in and of yourself. Your life is not about you—it is not even yours, though you are in it.
 
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I'm sorry you're struggling. What do you feel like you're missing? Usually people who are struggling and dealing with depression is because something is missing in their life. What do you find joy in? Is there anything that gets you up out of bed for the day?
 
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How long have you been on anti-depressants? When I used to take them, it took a few years for them to really start working on me.

There is relief, it just won't happen overnight, so don't expect any quick fix.
 
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Yeah guy im sorry you’re depressed, but do what you fear to do and admit it to yourself and go on. Some people are MI. You can make it a good journey and life. But it might not seem like it…. With the Lord who will be with you every step of the way. Take the bull by the horns. You have a few issues to clear up, clear them up. What is being happy anyway! But there is joy in trials you can attain. If you turn outward to other people it will change you. If you read your Bible often you will feel better. If you take those thoughts captive as in 1Cor 10:3-5 you can have a better attitude.

it’s all in what you try to be a godly thing. It’s all what God is doing- not a dead end. Persevere and see. I know you don’t feel like it but you still can. Just smile it’s physically possible so do it. It’s still physically possible to read your Bible so struggle through it, get er done. Jesus loves you!

he didn’t give you this affliction even if he did the Bible’s shows you how to get through it like a Christian had ought to. God is good he’s not punishing you. Keep up your strength in the fight against drinking the Bible will help. Call people, PM people like me, don’t sit by yourself and hope to defeat temptation over and over by yourself go to AA or somewhere. Support group. All for now write me.
 
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I appreciate the advice. I ended up having a bit to drink last night because the day was so awful. Even Jesus turned water into wine so I’m not mad or disappointed with myself..
I’m still confused though as to why God put me into this situation or struggling. I used to be moderately happy in life. I got to travel, had hobbies I enjoyed, had extra money where I could save and donate. Now I deal with a difficult coworker every single day, no extra money for entertainment. Im stressed at work all day, go home and watch tv, then repeat the cycle day after day. All I really want is simple things to improve to make life tolerable and feel like it’s worth it to be alive. But everything feels out of reach.
 
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Then struggle through. Maybe it’s just around the corner. Jesus wants things to change too, in you. Pray for patience. Pray for joy. I’ll pray for you: Please help with the changes that @yuppers needs. I pray the job situation would not get him down. I pray life wouldn’t be so hard and that an internal change would suffice if not a big change in circumstances. Let him go with protection from the coworker and make changes there for you say all things are possible with God and I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me. Please let it be possible and hope bloom for a better tomorrow. In Jesus Name. Don’t do anything radical until you hear from God.
 
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