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“The Dreaded G-Word:” The Twelve Steps and God

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I got sober through Celebrate Recovery, a Christian faith-based program that opened my eyes to the transformative power of the Twelve Steps. Since then, I’ve deepened my involvement in Alcoholics Anonymous, finding immense value in its foundational literature—the Big Book and the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (the “Twelve & Twelve”). These texts aren’t just guides; they’re lifelines. The original AA program was deeply rooted in biblical truths, inspired by the Oxford Group and Christian principles. Yet, it was flexible: if someone wasn’t sold on the Bible, the program encouraged coming to believe in a Higher Power through reason and “natural religion”—a God discerned through the world around us. And that’s okay, because this God is one who cares personally, who can restore us to sanity and remove our shortcomings.

But in modern AA today, I see a challenge for the staunch atheist. It’s tough, maybe impossible, to fully work the Steps without some belief in a Higher Power. An atheist might stay dry for 50+ years, sponsor others, and live a productive life without booze. But emotional sobriety? That deep inner peace, freedom from resentment, fear, and ego? I don’t think it’s achievable without surrendering to an Almighty God. The Big Book promises a “personality change sufficient to bring about recovery,” born from a spiritual awakening. Without faith in God, we’re left with self-reliance or group dependence, which can keep us sober but not truly serene. To newcomers in AA, NA, Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, Adult Children of Alcoholics, or even Celebrate Recovery—who might say, “I don’t believe in God,” or “My Higher Power is the group’s experience, strength, and hope,” or “Jesus was just a wise teacher”—don’t let the “G-word” scare you off. Start where you are; the program meets you there and invites growth.

My daily routine grounds me in this surrender. Each morning, on my knees, I pray these seven prayers:
  1. The On Awakening prayer from the Big Book (p. 86), asking God to direct my thoughts away from self-pity and selfishness.
  2. The Third Step Prayer (p. 63): Offering myself to God to build and do with me as He wills.
  3. The Seventh Step Prayer (p. 76): Humbly asking Him to remove my shortcomings.
  4. The Eleventh Step Prayer (Prayer of St. Francis, from the Twelve & Twelve, p. 99): Seeking to be a channel of peace.
Then:

5. The Lord’s Prayer
6. The Serenity Prayer.

And I end with:

7. “Father, into Your hands I commend my spirit. Your will, not mine, be done.”

At night, I pray a nightly review prayer from the Big Book. Then, I say the Jesus Prayer: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.” Sometimes I’ll say it once, sometimes I’ll say it on a set of prayer beads, and sometimes I’ll immerse myself in it for a few minutes.

My overall view is this: Pursue the recovery path that fits you as long as it centers on faith in Him who has all power. In the Big Book and Twelve & Twelve, “God” means God, plain and simple. That’s the foundation of real recovery. It works if you work it.
 
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Yes, while I am not familiar with the AA texts, it seems if one is truly seeking sobriety, God will often meet one even if at that point ones ideas about God are not quite "theologically correct" in every respect, so "God as best I understand Him" can bring one closer to the true God, providing I suppose one isn't on a more pantheistic trajectory.

That's what happened to CS Lewis philosophically, he didn't want to acknowledge the God of popular piety, yet he was following his conscience and his recourse to "Absolute Spirit" was gradually taking him to the point were God "closed in on him" as he put it. Its not always the same journey for each of us. With Lewis he had passed through several stages before that point and it seems clear from his book Surprised by Joy, that God had a Providential hand in his journey at key points, even though Lewis wasn't aware of it and was still clinging to his atheism on one hand and his love of mythology on the other.
 
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But emotional sobriety? That deep inner peace, freedom from resentment, fear, and ego? I don’t think it’s achievable without surrendering to an Almighty God.
You're certainly entitled to your opinion. To be sure, it's clear to me that reason supports the existence of God, but I've known more than one atheist who shows many (if not all) of the external signs of being blessed with God's peace: love, joy, patience, kindness, gentleness, self-control... heck, there are days when they do a much better job of it than I do. Since God seems to be blessing them with the fruits of his spirit, who am I to say that he's not pleased with their efforts to allow the Steps and Traditions to work in their lives? It's a spiritual program, right? And all spiritual progress is due to the grace of God, right? And Jesus said "I have other sheep who are not of this flock", right?

I like the way C. S. Lewis said it in Chapter 15 of The Last Battle. In it, Emeth tells of his meeting with Aslan:
Then I fell at his feet and thought, Surely this is the hour of death, for the Lion (who is worthy of all honor) will know that I have served Tash all my days and not him. Nevertheless, it is better to see the Lion and die than to be Tisroc of the world and live and not to have seen him. But the Glorious One bent down his golden head and touched my forehead with his tongue and said, "Son, thou art welcome." But I said, "Alas, Lord, I am no son of thine but the servant of Tash." He answered, "Child, all the service thou hast done to Tash, I account as service done to me." Then by reason of my great desire for wisdom and understanding, I overcame my fear and questioned the Glorious One and said "Lord, is it then true, as the Ape said, that thou and Tash are one"" The Lion growled so that the earth shook (but his wrath was not against me) and said, "It is false. Not because he and I are one, but because we are opposites - I take to me the services which thou hast done to him. For he and I are of such different kinds that no service which is vile can be done to me, and none which is not vile can be done to him. Therefore, if any man swear by Tash and keep his oath for the oath's sake, it is by me that he has truly sworn, though he know it not, and it is I who reward him. And if any man do cruelty in my name, then, though he says the name Aslan, it is Tash whom he serves and by Tash his deed is accepted. Dost thou understand, Child?" I said "Lord, thou knowest how much I understand." But I said also (for the truth constrained me), "Yet I have been seeking Tash all my days." "Beloved," said the Glorious One, "unless thy desire had been for me thou wouldst not have sought so long and so truly. For all find what they truly seek."​
 
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