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Has anyone ever witnessed to someone who has Alzheimers?

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My cousin, who is nearly 90, (I'm in my seventies) has Alzheimers. I've given the basics of the gospel to her and her son, who was there at the time. When I mentioned judgement she said that she wasn't worried about it as she didnt believe in it, to which I replied that that didn't alter the reality of it. Later conversations became a bit confused so I've realised that I need to keep things very simple and straightforward.

Does anyone else have any experience of witnessing to someone with Alzheimers and/or memory loss? Of so, how did you handle it?
 

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My cousin, who is nearly 90, (I'm in my seventies) has Alzheimers. I've given the basics of the gospel to her and her son, who was there at the time. When I mentioned judgement she said that she wasn't worried about it as she didnt believe in it, to which I replied that that didn't alter the reality of it. Later conversations became a bit confused so I've realised that I need to keep things very simple and straightforward.

Does anyone else have any experience of witnessing to someone with Alzheimers and/or memory loss? Of so, how did you handle it?
Hello rebornfree. I hope you're well. I used to visit a care home with a small group, some of the residents had quite severe dementia. We found gospel music could help, simple bible verses or phrases that they could understand and repeat. Some would clap along to the music, even sing along. Sorry this might not be much help. God Bless :)
 
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Hello rebornfree. I hope you're well. I used to visit a care home with a small group, some of the residents had quite severe dementia. We found gospel music could help, simple bible verses or phrases that they could understand and repeat. Some would clap along to the music, even sing along. Sorry this might not be much help. God Bless :)
Hi Lismore, thanks for your reply. The work you do in the care home sounds really good for people with serious dementia. However I'm not really in a situation where I could play gospel music as I always go to her. I think she would hate it anyway, as she is a strong atheist. Bible verses sound good though. I could bring them into the conversation. The difficulty is that she forgets what has just been said.

One thing I have learnt is to keep things straigtforward. I told her about how I once had a wrong idea of Christianity and was going to tell her of my mistake, but she latched onto the wrong idea. Now I'm finding it hard to explain why I had the wrong view. I'm praying that she'll forget that conversation and I'll be able to tell her what Christianity is really about without making it too complicated.

Thanks for your reply and I hope that you are well. :)
 
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Greetings rebornfree and lismore,
Agreed that use of music and simple lessons are often the best ways to go here. One of our ministers recently was providing lessons to an individual under generally similar circumstances, it was not Alzheimer's but one of the other forms of dementia (I believe it may have been vascular dementia or similar, apologies as I'm not too versed in the medical terminology).

He was facing generally similar challenges, the key he found was to break things down and keep them simple. And where needed, to start with the verses and teachings that were easier to grasp, and then build little stories and examples from there that were easier to follow. As analogy, many Biblical concepts and teachings are quite challenging even for Biblical scholars, hence the detailed exegesis and multiple levels of interpretation in seminaries and commentaries, to make the concepts relatable and understand the underlying and varied meanings. So there's nothing inherently awry with challenges in communicating difficult teachings, especially for individuals with cognitive challenges as well. In his case talking with the church member with vascular dementia, he would often start with a verse from ex. Psalms or Corinthians that might be more familiar or easier to grasp, and then build out from there, not unlike a carefully put together but simple Sunday school lesson. And yes music helps! Especially if the person being addressed has musical experience or loves to sing, one of our chaplains mentioned this is often good way to reach individuals as this part of their minds functions well even with dementia. Gospel music often works well. We've also found some simple, moving hymns work very well.
 
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Greetings rebornfree and lismore,
Agreed that use of music and simple lessons are often the best ways to go here. One of our ministers recently was providing lessons to an individual under generally similar circumstances, it was not Alzheimer's but one of the other forms of dementia (I believe it may have been vascular dementia or similar, apologies as I'm not too versed in the medical terminology).

He was facing generally similar challenges, the key he found was to break things down and keep them simple. And where needed, to start with the verses and teachings that were easier to grasp, and then build little stories and examples from there that were easier to follow. As analogy, many Biblical concepts and teachings are quite challenging even for Biblical scholars, hence the detailed exegesis and multiple levels of interpretation in seminaries and commentaries, to make the concepts relatable and understand the underlying and varied meanings. So there's nothing inherently awry with challenges in communicating difficult teachings, especially for individuals with cognitive challenges as well. In his case talking with the church member with vascular dementia, he would often start with a verse from ex. Psalms or Corinthians that might be more familiar or easier to grasp, and then build out from there, not unlike a carefully put together but simple Sunday school lesson. And yes music helps! Especially if the person being addressed has musical experience or loves to sing, one of our chaplains mentioned this is often good way to reach individuals as this part of their minds functions well even with dementia. Gospel music often works well. We've also found some simple, moving hymns work very well.
Thank you for your reply Inhocsigno. Yes, it does seem to be necessary to keep things simple. Using a scripture and building on it is a good idea. I appreciate that music is also a good way to go. but in this particular case, with my cousin, I can't see how I can do it.

At times she is quite coherent, but then at others she can keep asking the same question, having completely forgotten that she'd already asked it. A friend, who was a social worker, told me that family history and photographs can help keep the memories alive, so her son and I have been looking at those with her. Her father had dementia and my aunt would say that he could remember his school Latin but was confused about current things. I suppose it's because older memories are more deeply embedded in the mind.
 
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