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Defending the name change in the light of eternity
This question has taken on a personal urgency as a friend is at an unexpected impasse on the issue with his fiancée.
Perhaps he should have expected it: among unmarried American women, just 33% say they would take their spouse’s last name. Major publications like the Atlantic dismiss the practice as a ‘patriarchal relic’. Prominent barristers attack patrilineal naming on X and get 30,000 likes:
Dr Charlotte Proudman@DrProudman
A message to pregnant women — please give the baby your surname. You carried a baby for 9 months, gave birth, and will be responsible for that child for the rest of your life. When you’re registering the baby ask yourself: why is the father’s surname more important than yours?
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Greece, as part of legal reforms to promote gender equality, went so far as to change their Civil Code to mandate that marriage does not alter the legal surname of either spouse.
It is now forbidden for a Greek wife to legally change her surname to that of her husband—even if she wants to.
This is not a superficial social change. The implications run deep: the nature of the family, relations between men and women, and the structure of civilization itself. The few studies that have been done on the issue reveal profound effects: marriages in which the woman underwent marital surname change last 60% longer, for example.
The debate over whether a woman should adopt her husband’s surname is now framed as a matter of personal preference, a fleeting negotiation between two autonomous selves. But this reduction misunderstands the stakes. It is by ancient, deep dynamics that the question should be evaluated.
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Women should take their husband's name
Defending the name change in the light of eternity