Prayer request for finding identity

God gives all sorts of tests in life. You can be bitter or youo can overcome. To me, race or mixing is of no concern. Sure there is discrimination but God is just and you will reap what you sown. honoring your parents is a concern. Your racial ideas seem to suggest you are unhappy and question their marriage choice. Obama was half Kenyan, and he did quite well for himself, so while it might take more work overcoming discrimination, it also can open more doors. I would see it as an opportunity to serve Christ and be employed in using the talent that you were given. In the end that is all that is going to matter for eternity.

ProsopoMillion said:

Hello guys once again,

Currently I am having spiritual confusion and trouble on my identity in Christ. I am completely lost in this world, but one of the main things that has been bothering me lately is why God made me mixed race.

For background my mother is white (American) and my father is black (Nigerian). I don't understand why God would allow race mixings to happen, especially with races that look completely different from each other. This area has caused me much stress, especially as I feel that my black half brings me down and is only a hindrance to me in my life. I am honestly depressed, and I also feel that bad things could very well happen to me in the future because of something my parents decided to do.

I also find it bothering why God would allow my white mother to marry a man of the ONE race as where when they mix, the offspring is typically not white-passing. (Miscegenation is much less harmful when it doesn't involve black people) It's like my mother selectively found a man with the darkest skin and the least white-looking phenotype possible to be her husband.

Everyone around me always says the same old thing about how "race is a social construct" but I don't see it that way. Most of the world (including most Christians) were against race mixing until the 1960's.

I have also had identity confusion in other areas, too. I feel like my life is meaningless, and I have no purpose. I honestly feel like nothing would change if I didn't exist.

Please pray for me about this. Let the Lord speak to me and transform me. I'm sorry if I come off as racist or anything like that, I am just in a low moment right now.

Thank you.

- ProsopoMillion

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The business of being a mixed race is something that can't be changed so the tormentor has found good ground to work on you but that is all he is, tormentor, liar, deceiver etc. You are your own person and God don't make any mistakes. If we can recognize that God is in control we can relax. I expect you have made your peace with Jesus Christ. Your trials and struggles have a greater purpose than simply being a bother here they have a purpose that may find expression only on the other side for scripture tell us to rejoice in our trials, for they work to our good. As for purpose I think that is part of the curse of the age we live in. With all the noise and confusion values have been distorted and so it makes it difficult to know how and where to apply ourselves because we are so dependent on environmental feedback but if we can only realize that God does not want us dependent on what people say and do but instead rest upon His Word. I think purpose can be given to us focus more on His Word it will become increasingly clear on what we should be doing and who we should be serving and let me say 'it is not ourselves' for we in ourselves are a dead end street. I'm sure you've brought your petition before the Lord but don't despair He is faithful.
God bless

God isn’t responsible for your parent’s decision to partner or reproduce. Their relationship is a reflection of free will and the result is theirs to bear and yours. The issue isn’t the Lord’s but your desire to be white and what you’ve associated with that state. You have to look at the subject objectively to quantify your beliefs.

Demographically speaking, Asians make the most money, have the most degrees, the highest rate of marriage and lowest rates of divorce and single parent homes. But they’re minorities. Their success is a result of their ethos not their hue.

Caucasian men comprise 53.6% to 58.1% of the incel community. Asians are next with 20.3% followed by blacks at 15.7% and hispanics at 5.5% to 7.3%. Most people mate within their race and as the data reveals they’re struggling to do so.

When we speak of privilege you have to be specific and identify your advantage. You can’t rely on tropes to substantiate your position. You have to back it up with facts. When you look at things demographically the bulk of our society falls within the 90 percent.

This is the median income by age in America. That’s not a lot of money. Even if you doubled it with a two earner household when you factor in expenses it’s enough.

• Age 25: $41,150
• Age 35: $60,000
• Age 45: $67,144
• Age 55: $63,350
• Age 65: $70,001

When people feel disenfranchised they cling to things that make them feel empowered. Most of the conversation pertaining to race has a correlation to the cost of living and diminishment of buying power. Look at the people admitting they’ll never own a home. Look at the shopping haul’s from Walmart and Aldi’s and thrifting.

I’m not knocking that but it isn’t a reflection of privilege. When you’re genuinely advantaged you have the liberty of better as a norm. You don’t have to pick and choose. There’s markers that highlight this more than others. Like your zip code and how you earn your living. As you climb the ladder you find greater instances of business owners than employees.

Education is another and college is a factor but the greater determinant is high school. That’s where relationships are forged with future leaders not the university. There’s hobbies and interests of course. The things you focus on and how you spend your time are a reflection of your station.

What you fail to realize is that privilege isn’t inclusive. The advantage of race is primarily applicable to specific spheres — lower and middle. But it isn’t the one held in highest esteem. You’ll open more doors through pedigree and wealth than you ever will with race alone.

The internet destroyed the myth of white supremacy as it was posited in our culture. When everyone started sharing the truth was revealed. That’s why you see people crashing out on social media and triggering over posts because the differences are hard to bear. I work in this medium and the data always includes socioeconomic details.

You have to stop focusing on race and commune with the Lord to discover your unfair advantage. Just because you’re biracial doesn’t mean you’re down and out and ‘exotic’ is popular. God has given you a mind with gifts and talents and you were born in a period with opportunities that didn’t exist before.

When it comes to looks have you been living under a rock? What do you think the Kardashians did? They monetized black culture and bodies and convinced millions of women to follow suit to look ‘thick’. Never-mind the theatrical makeup that makes them look darker. That’s why everyone looks the same.

When you move your beyond your emotions and look at things rationally you realize the truth about the world in relation to yourself and others. The majority do just enough and don’t have the ability to work to their capacity and scale. They’re not your competition. They’re the ones you should surpass if you’re focused. The best way to conquer your demons is by pushing yourself. You won’t know your specialness without the challenge.

Life is a monopoly board. All you have to decide is where you want to land. That’s difficult to do when you’re entertaining low vibrational discourse. You need to be in the company of people working towards their dreams. Not complaining about their lives, family, significant other, the country, etc. There’s a time and place for those connections. But they’ll hinder you now because of your mindset.

You need to pour into yourself. Be mindful of your diet, hit the gym, connect with a group of men in church, pursue activities that expand your intellect and prowess. That’s where you’ll encounter people who‘ll inspire you by their example and offer the encouragement you lack. Your race can only hinder you to the degree you permit. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get to work.

~bella