In Light of the ‘Mankeeping’ Discussion, Remember the Wisdom of the Church

Much of the slant of popular culture these days is to "de-masculinize" men, as the article mentions. The public schools, especially, being filled with female teachers, try with might and mien to turn little boys into little girls. Girls are quiet, they are clean, they are compliant, and easy for the teachers to deal with; boys, on the other hand, are loud, boisterous, dirty, rough-and-tumble creatures who have trouble sitting still for great 50-minute chunks of time listening to someone droning on about social studies and defective nouns. Ergo, the teachers dislike dealing with little boys and wish ever so much that they were more like little girls. This goes all the way up to corporate offices, where men must tread very carefully around women, lest the woman lodge a "creepiness" complaint against the man, and H.R. comes down on the poor slob with both feet.

The problem, at least the way the feminists and "# me too" advocates view it, is that the men aren't playing the game any more---they're opting out. In business spaces, men are refusing to interact with women, unless it as absolutely necessary and unavoidable, and then only in a clinically cool, professional manner, with no personal impetus at all that could be misconstrued. They will take stairs rather than ride in an elevator alone with women; they will walk on the opposite sides of streets rather than walk next to women; they refuse to get involved in mentoring women on projects, or working with them in any kind of one-on-one capacity. Studies have indicated that when a company begins to become female-heavy, where the women outnumber the men, the men will actually quit, and move on to a different place of employment, rather than deal with too many women.

Relationship-wise, men do not pursue women any more---in fact, they don't even approach them. Women complain that singles clubs consist of 89% women, and what few men do show up, they may look at the women, but they do not go over and say hello. Women complain that they can't find men to date any more, because the men just refuse to date. Dating is stressful; it's expensive, it's disheartening in all too many cases, and a lot of men state that they simply do not want to deal with female drama, manipulation, game-playing, and gaslighting. This has trickled down into marriage unions, as well----men are opting out of that, as well. 50% of all new marriages fail, and the court system is viciously slanted against the husband in any divorce settlement; a man can be accused of practically anything, and end up losing not only his home and his bank account, but more than half of his personal possessions as well, lose access to his children, and end up in a state of indentured destitution, paying alimony and child support to the woman and his children, plus any other children she may have with however many other men, whether she re-marries or not. And the man may have done absolutely nothing wrong to be slapped with these penalties---it could simply be that the wife got "bored" and wanted out. And a formerly married man is extremely unlikely to re-enter the current dating scene; as women have become dominant in the business world, they have gotten rougher, harder, colder, form competing with men. They have become (dare I say it?) masculinized. Men are not interested in dating other men, or in women who are more or less men with breasts. Men are attracted to women---feminine, female women; and there seems to be fewer of those around these days.

This has implications for the future of our culture; why would any sane male subject himself to all this? Answer: he wouldn't, and so they withdraw from dating, from marriage, from childbearing, from co-ed employment venues, from the entire system, for all intents and purposes. Society has decided that men must be tolerated at best, denigrated and despised at worst, and so men have given up on engaging with the society. They refuse to pick up and bear the burden of what society used to deem a man's "responsibilities". Women have said they need men like a fish needs a bicycle, that men need to stay away from them, do not approach us, do not talk to us, etc., etc., etc., and the men have listened. You don't find men in public entertainment venues any more; you don't find them in a lot of boardrooms; you certainly don't find them standing at altars with a woman all dressed in white any more. If you want to find men, you'll find them at the gym, or playing video games, or fishing, or hiking/camping/living in the woods, or tinkering with cars and power tools in their garages. They're not buying houses; they're not producing children to take up the reins for the next generation (if there is one), they're not joining companies and innovating new and wonderful things. Society has rejected them, and they have simply.....left. They go out and do their own thing, and revel in the peace and serenity that they have, without kowtowing to society's pressures to "succeed".

It's an unhappy thing all the way around. This does not describe all men, or all women; but it does include enough of them that the ones who actually want to build a life with each other are coming up dry due to the minefield atmosphere most males find themselves having to navigate through when it comes to male-female relations.

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In one column, a writer bemoans the disappearance of men, claiming that the dating world is now rife with guys who don’t make conversation, who have “withdrawn” from the traditional practice of getting to know a woman, and who have become “indifferent” on dating apps.

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