Feeling betrayed

RileyG · Monday at 8:19 PM

Hi all,

I had so called “friends” from college. I thought they were some of my closest friends. One completely abandoned me and the other didn’t invite me to his wedding, even after many particular conversations regarding that topic.

I blocked most people from my hometown and from college.

I spend a majority of my time alone, and outside of work, I don’t talk to anyone outside my immediate family.

How do I move on?

Peace

Hoping2 · Monday at 9:33 PM

RileyG said:
Hi all,

I had so called “friends” from college. I thought they were some of my closest friends. One completely abandoned me and the other didn’t invite me to his wedding, even after many particular conversations regarding that topic.
I blocked most people from my hometown and from college.
I spend a majority of my time alone, and outside of work, I don’t talk to anyone outside my immediate family.
How do I move on?
Peace

It looks like you already have moved on.
Who needs toxins in their lives ?

RileyG · Monday at 9:43 PM

Hoping2 said:
It looks like you already have moved on.
Who needs toxins in their lives ?

Ugh I don’t know

Hoping2 · Monday at 9:51 PM

RileyG said:
Ugh I don’t know

Of course you are going to miss people that are 'gone', but it is their choice.
Who's to say they won't pop up in your life later ?
Your paths crossed for a while, but new people will keep showing up.
Get out and do some volunteer work for a while, and meet folks who also care for others !

Reluctant Theologian · Monday at 10:57 PM

RileyG said:
Hi all,

I had so called “friends” from college. I thought they were some of my closest friends. One completely abandoned me and the other didn’t invite me to his wedding, even after many particular conversations regarding that topic.

I blocked most people from my hometown and from college.

I spend a majority of my time alone, and outside of work, I don’t talk to anyone outside my immediate family.

How do I move on?

Peace

Seek Christian friends, try to find a counsellor/coach to find out what the problem might be in finding and maintaining balanced bi-directional friendships. If it's always the others that seem to withdraw and not seek your company, there may be something going on you're not aware of yet. Getting some honest feedback from someone you can trust would be helpful. Feeling abandoned or even betrayed would feel terrible, sorry to hear that. But don't rush to blame others - try to discover what you can do to become a valued friend to others.

Unqualified · Tuesday at 8:48 AM

All the people in my past I no longer hea from. Religion or faith in Jesus can facilitate that very easily especially as it persists. But don’t take it too hard. We all move on to our own lives. We may find ourselves alone, but the body of Christ is our shelter. And our need for personal growth and a relationship with Him kicks in. I still only have one male friend who I am blessed to have but the church is a pleasant place to be. God provides. If you want a friend be a friend.

RileyG · Tuesday at 10:31 AM

Hoping2 said:
Of course you are going to miss people that are 'gone', but it is their choice.
Who's to say they won't pop up in your life later.
Your paths crossed for a while, but new people will keep showing up.
Get out and do some volunteer work for a while, and meet folks who also care for others !

Thank you for the input.

RileyG · Tuesday at 11:09 AM

Reluctant Theologian said:
Seek Christian friends, try to find a counsellor/coach to find out what the problem might be in finding and maintaining balanced bi-directional friendships. If it's always the others that seem to withdraw and not seek your company, there may be something going on you're not aware of yet. Getting some honest feedback from someone you can trust would be helpful. Feeling abandoned or even betrayed would feel terrible, sorry to hear that. But don't rush to blame others - try to discover what you can do to become a valued friend to others.

Thank you for the advice.

DragonFox91 · Wednesday at 6:57 AM

Sometimes we think the problem is us & beat ourselves up. Sometimes we think the problem is ‘people’ as a whole & want to turn the back on people as a whole. More often then not, we are just given people that are just hard for us. God knows everything about you & the kind of people you need. He doesn’t withhold anyone in some way meant to help you or you are meant to help in some way. All things are working for good - & ultimately for the salvation - for the Christian. In time he may introduce people that will call you a true friend, who wouldn’t betray you even if YOU tried to betray them.

Reflect back on it. Were there signs it wasn't working out?

RileyG · Wednesday at 1:21 PM

DragonFox91 said:
Sometimes we think the problem is us & beat ourselves up. Sometimes we think the problem is ‘people’ as a whole & want to turn the back on people as a whole. More often then not, we are just given people that are just hard for us. God knows everything about you & the kind of people you need. He doesn’t withhold anyone in some way meant to help you or you are meant to help in some way. All things are working for good - & ultimately for the salvation - for the Christian. In time he may introduce people that will call you a true friend, who wouldn’t betray you even if YOU tried to betray them.

Reflect back on it. Were there signs it wasn't working out?

I’m not really sure, thank you.

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