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Are ‘little white lies’ okay to tell?
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From what I gather, you could have simply told the current stylist the first part of the twofold answer, and would have been just fine - telling her that you love her work but that due to health reasons, it is becoming difficult to drive anywhere beyond a certain distance. I don't feel that she would have been hurt at all. If she was, know that you didn't mean to hurt her. I don't see what was wrong with not saying anything else beyond the first part of the twofold answer. That's me though.
This reminds me so much of what I said the other day about not wanting to driver farther to church than I have to, but not knowing people at my nearest church, and having that dilemma.
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I did call. That’s how I found out they aren’t closing. I called and said that I heard a rumor that they were closing and asked if it was true. I didn’t hear a rumor, I just was worried about settling back in there if they were going to close. I don’t see many cars there and when I used to go there the place wasn’t nearly as busy as the salon I’ve been going to now. So before I started to settle back in there, I wanted to make sure they weren’t in danger of closing.
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Oh ok. Yeah I realized I miss the part where you said you called. As I said, I do think that the first part of the twofold answer you had up there was pretty good, good enough too.
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I emailed my priest and asked him if I need to go to confession for this and he said I could, or I could make the sign of the cross with holy water and be sincerely sorry for lying, or participate in the penetential rite at the beginning of Mass, so we’re all good.
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Again, it has to do with your intent. Telling the person that the dress doesn't make
her butt look big even though it does, isn't a mortal sin unless you have the intention
of having her look bad to satisfy your own ego.
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I don't see that much wrong in saying the butt looks big in an outfit (if they ask you), if you're trying to help someone look better.
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Intention, but I also should've stated, your gender matters too.
I remember a man asking a woman at work when she was due?
Turns out she was just fat. In today's world he would've been fired.
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Yeah, I think it's in really bad taste to ask that question if the fat person didn't reveal first that she was pregnant.
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Depends on who is asking. If it’s a good friend or family member I’d just likely say “weeeeeellllll, honestly????” Then if they REALLY want the truth I’d probably give them the truth.
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I usually say something like (I would not wear it) etc. I really hate being put on the spot like that.
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Lucky you!
There are certain types people that ask that stuff all the time. Drives me bonkers.
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Also, an Our Father, receiving the Eucharist, an act of contrition, and various others, remit sin
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