I Need Some Hope.

peaceful-forest · Mar 28, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
I've always been hesitant to because I feel like I'm not allowed to complain. How would I even word it?

There's a difference between complaining and raising a concern with God.

You are concerned that you will never get out of your current problems. You are concerned that you will not have the time to enjoy marriage before it's time to leave this earth.

There's nothing wrong with telling God you are concerned about these things. He already knows you are.

ChristianSonic · Mar 28, 2025

peaceful-forest said:
There's a difference between complaining and raising a concern with God.

You are concerned that you will never get out of your current problems. You are concerned that you will not have the time to enjoy marriage before it's time to leave this earth.

There's nothing wrong with telling God you are concerned about these things. He already knows you are.

You're right, but again, how should I word my concerns to Him?

peaceful-forest · Mar 28, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
You're right, but again, how should I word my concerns to Him?

How about this:

"God, I have concerns. I believe you have picked out my future wife for me, but I am concerned I will not be able to enjoy marriage before it is time for me to go. I have trouble trusting women because I believe I will be put in the friend zone. I am also having trouble finding a job. I am worried that I will never be able to find a job. Please help me."

ChristianSonic · Mar 28, 2025

peaceful-forest said:
How about this:

"God, I have concerns. I believe you have picked out my future wife for me, but I am concerned I will not be able to enjoy marriage before it is time for me to go. I have trouble trusting women because I believe I will be put in the friend zone. I am also having trouble finding a job. I am worried that I will never be able to find a job. Please help me."

Thank you.

DragonFox91 · Mar 31, 2025

In some of my prayers it sounds very complainy..........It does not end that way

Also you are still pretty young OP. Earlier today I was thinking, I don't know where the rush to get married comes from, there is no rush in God's timeline.

ChristianSonic · Mar 31, 2025

DragonFox91 said:
In some of my prayers it sounds very complainy..........It does not end that way

Also you are still pretty young OP. Earlier today I was thinking, I don't know where the rush to get married comes from, there is no rush in God's timeline.

Biological clock. After 35, pregnancies become at-risk pregnancies. Also, with how turbulent the world is today, it feels like Jesus will be here any second, and I'm not even close to where I would need to be. I still believe she's out there, but I'm still trying to figure out how to get out of my current circumstances.

DragonFox91 · Mar 31, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
Biological clock. After 35, pregnancies become at-risk pregnancies.

Nah. I've heard much higher then that.

ChristianSonic said:
Also, with how turbulent the world is today, it feels like Jesus will be here any second,

Soon

Wait for the trumpet horn!

ChristianSonic said:
and I'm not even close to where I would need to be. I still believe she's out there, but I'm still trying to figure out how to get out of my current circumstances.

Yep, you're doing it right.

ChristianSonic · Mar 31, 2025

DragonFox91 said:
Nah. I've heard much higher then that.

Soon Wait for the trumpet horn!

Yep, you're doing it right.

What do you mean I'm doing it right? I'm so confused! I can't see any sort of opening to use to move my life forward; my life feels so stagnant and useless.

DragonFox91 · Mar 31, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
What do you mean I'm doing it right? I'm so confused! I can't see any sort of opening to use to move my life forward; my life feels so stagnant and useless.

You're not looking?

ChristianSonic · Mar 31, 2025

DragonFox91 said:
You're not looking?

Don't have many opportunities to since it's so hard to find a job.

Lost Witness · Apr 1, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
You're right, but again, how should I word my concerns to Him?

He's God.
God is the Father of all those who are in Christ
Be honest and open with him, even your frustrations.
He knows you have them but he wants you to bring it all to him. No matter how Big or small it may be.
I as a Dad feel the same with my son's. (Don't get me wrong God's feelings, and love for us is sooo much deeper than we're capable of feeling)
I want them to share even if I don't agree because I value their honesty and the closeness.
Try it with The Heavenly Father. You'd be surprised.

High Fidelity · Apr 2, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
I'm absolutely sure that God has a wife in store for me.

ChristianSonic said:
I'm having a hard time trusting God

Which one is it?

With all due respect you aren’t ready for marriage.

You need to figure out your personal life and who you are as an individual before you concern yourself with who you are or will be to a wife.

Focus on getting your work and personal life sorted before even thinking about marriage.

ChristianSonic · Apr 2, 2025

High Fidelity said:
Which one is it?

With all due respect you aren’t ready for marriage.

You need to figure out your personal life and who you are as an individual before you concern yourself with who you are or will be to a wife.

Focus on getting your work and personal life sorted before even thinking about marriage.

1. Too blunt, even though you’re right.
2. Yes, I will try to figure myself out; but how do I?

High Fidelity · Apr 2, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
1. Too blunt, even though you’re right.
2. Yes, I will try to figure myself out; but how do I?

Find work, figure out your career, who you are, who you want to be. Figure out how to be content without a spouse, because it may not be on the cards, you may end up widowed etc, not meaning to sound harsh but you need to be flourishing as an individual before you can expect to flourish with someone else, and even then your circumstances may change. Marriage doesn’t guarantee happiness, and it isn’t guaranteed for life, especially nowadays, even though no one gets married thinking it’ll fall apart for one of any number of reasons.

A spouse is not the missing piece to the puzzle. If you’re expecting to feel completed by someone else then you’re in for a lot of suffering.

DragonFox91 · Apr 2, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
Don't have many opportunities to since it's so hard to find a job.

Try a staffing agency. I really really struggled finding a job. I just wasn't good at interviews & was only getting more & more frustrated so only did worse & worse at them. I found those template interview questions they ask really challenging b/c my job experience was poor so hated the whole system & felt it rigged against me. I talked to a staffing agency & they found me a job where I didn't have to do an interview (after a couple failed jobs). I've been here 10+ years now. They may help you too. Try it out if you haven't! Don't take my experience for it, it was the Lord who helped me.

ChristianSonic · Apr 2, 2025

High Fidelity said:
Find work, figure out your career, who you are, who you want to be. Figure out how to be content without a spouse, because it may not be on the cards, you may end up widowed etc, not meaning to sound harsh but you need to be flourishing as an individual before you can expect to flourish with someone else, and even then your circumstances may change. Marriage doesn’t guarantee happiness, and it isn’t guaranteed for life, especially nowadays, even though no one gets married thinking it’ll fall apart for one of any number of reasons.

A spouse is not the missing piece to the puzzle. If you’re expecting to feel completed by someone else then you’re in for a lot of suffering.

Don't doubt God's ability to bring true love, even in this day and age. I refuse to give up because this modern romance culture means nothing to God. I trust Him. The world may seem like a genuine marriage is impossible, but God has overcome the world.

High Fidelity · Apr 3, 2025

ChristianSonic said:
Don't doubt God's ability to bring true love, even in this day and age. I refuse to give up because this modern romance culture means nothing to God. I trust Him. The world may seem like a genuine marriage is impossible, but God has overcome the world.

I am not doubting God or asking you to give up. I am just advising you against expecting something that isn't guaranteed, and if you do get it, it isn't going to solve all of your problems.

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