Any advice for a Teen that wants to get Married someday?

jacob.austin said:

Just wanted to see if anyone has advice on that subject for me. Marriage is something I really want to commit to with a Godly girl I can love and cherish. I do understand that its not all fun and games, I understand that there will be difficulties but I want to be ready to face them head on.

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Dont! Lol

Wait for the infatuation stage to pass before committing. As a 65 year old, trust me, you will know the infatuation has ended.

jacob.austin said:

Just wanted to see if anyone has advice on that subject for me. Marriage is something I really want to commit to with a Godly girl I can love and cherish. I do understand that its not all fun and games, I understand that there will be difficulties but I want to be ready to face them head on.

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Maybe this, should be your prayer???????

jacob.austin said:

Just wanted to see if anyone has advice on that subject for me. Marriage is something I really want to commit to with a Godly girl I can love and cherish. I do understand that its not all fun and games, I understand that there will be difficulties but I want to be ready to face them head on.

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It sounds like you want to go on an adventure rather than invest in a relationship.

"Godly girl I can love", suggests that you don't yet have a girlfriend.
So find a Christian girl/woman that you like, someone you have things in common with.
Ask her if she would like to go for a drink/on a date with you.
Get to know her; listen to her concerns, plans, hopes etc.
If the relationships develops and lasts, ask her where she sees it going, and what she wants from it.
Be honest about what you want from it.
Pray together.
If you are both committed to the relationship long term, and believe that marriage is right for you, ask her to marry you.
Make sure you talk about important things - where you will live, work and whether, and when, you will start a family. You need to be able to talk, and to work out decisions together, with God.

Have a relationship with Jesus. Know you are a treasure. You have worth and value to Him. He wants you to remain faithful to Him, and keep yourself Holy for your future spouse.
Don't get into drugs and alcohol. God calls his priests to be sober, and the man of the marriage is the Priest of the household and family, under Christ.
Treat women with respect and care, as Jesus did the Church. How you treat your mother tells girls how you would treat them!
Don't ever use your physical self to harm or hurt your girlfriend/wife. Don't lie to yourself that "we want to get married" is okay to fornicate. It's no justification when you meet your maker "well, God, we had good intentions..." (especially if you then broke up!).
If you're Christian and you want a wife, know that most girls expect to be mothers someday. You'll be signing up for children when you take a wife.
Don't look for a girl who wants you for your money, your family, or job, etc, but who you are on the inside. You also look for inner self in her.
Try to line up personal beliefs...it's not unheard of that God blesses inter-faith marriage, but I tell you, inter-faith and inter-culture marriage in my family have been the hardest ones, and have not lasted (my sisters). Don't convert for her. Not worth compromising yourself because males and females match up, you know?
Tell God what you look for in a girl. Pray for her. That God keep her, that she uphold her morals, that she's a good person, and good motherhood material. Pray for the relationship between your parents and your future spouse. Pray that God protects her, and choose to be His protector of her once you're married. Be gentle, slow to anger, try to resolve your issues responsibly. Please don't be swindled by abortion, no matter what you've done.....taking life out of God's hands is never good....trust me, I was young once, and I wish I'd had an older Christian to advise me...by the way, the boy was a "Christian" and his family, too. God forgave me, but I do carry that like the weight of Steven on Paul.
Have a work ethic, try not to use vulgar language. Women find this attractive, honestly. (The right kind of woman will!)
Don't cheat. Be ready to be honest with your future spouse, even when you feel more inclined to hide or lie. Women don't respect liars and swindlers. Not even yo'mama.
Be responsible with your money. Women don't want to date a man who can't manage resources.
Strive to better yourself, for you. Remember that God supplements all needs in a marriage, because humans fail. He's the third leg of a tripod, which makes a marriage strong.
Ask God to bring her into your life...and make it known to you that it's right. Women who are taken are not available to date. Always give your thoughts/concerns/desires/wishes to God. He's your lifeline! He knows the perfect woman for you, and you for her....trust Him!
If you fall in love for her "body"....you might find yourself not having much more going on in the marriage than that, and might be disappointed later in life. Our physical selves change, but our spiritual selves are eternal.
Write down qualities (or think them) you admire, and seek God for where compromise might occur since "the perfect woman" doesn't exist, but He can match you pretty well if you ask!
Don't sell yourself short. Don't think you're going to change your someone, and don't go into a life-long marital commitment seeing divorce as your way out.
I could go on and on, but the biggest thing is to involve your Heavenly Father in all aspects of this decision, and good-luck to you! Ask other Christians to pray for you, and for her, and for God's will! Seek Him!

You are wise to ask for advice beforehand!

Start praying for your wife now. Your future wife, that is. Ask Jesus to start preparing you to be a good husband.

Tell older married couples at your church that you wish to marry one day, their prayers for you will be vital.

Don't expect or aim for a Godly girl if you want to improve your chances. Look at yourself out of a scale of 1 to 10 and find out where you fit and aim for women in your number range.

jacob.austin said:

Any advice for a Teen that wants to get Married someday?

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God wants Christian couples who bring up godly children. And an important part of this is how you with your wife are a good example for your children. They need to feed on how you are humble and relate in love, so that they know how to love.

There are children who have not found out how to love. They have had parents fighting and abusing and seeking pleasure. So the children, then, are desperate for affection and attention and they try to get this with other kids who also do not know how to love. Instead, they seek pleasure through things inferior to love. Sexual pleasure is not real intimacy and love! And drug pleasure and sports fame and excitement are false forms of love. And their pals, likewise blind, can lead them into smoking and drinking, also not ways of true and deep satisfaction of God's love.

Only Jesus is the way to God and real love . . . our Father's family sharing and caring love. Therefore, first trust in Jesus. And share with mature Christian couples. And get to know various younger Christians.

Do not get isolated with some one woman; but share in groups with people of different ages and grow with each other. Then discover if you are connecting with a Christian sister who is growing with you and helps you to grow in Jesus and how Jesus has us loving.

She should be someone who obviously helps you while you help her, so you two can also bring up children *along with yourselves*.

jacob.austin said:

Marriage is something I really want to commit to with a Godly girl I can love and cherish.

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If you are Christians, you will grow and become people you have never been before. You will need to keep discovering and getting to know one another - - - as you keep developing. And love one another dearly. What matters is that you marry someone who is a child of God and you both are growing with each other and with others in Jesus' family. It is not an isolation thing.

"for if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)

jacob.austin said:

I do understand that its not all fun and games, I understand that there will be difficulties but I want to be ready to face them head on.

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Learn now how to handle difficulties. With God, you can find how He uses any trouble for His good. So, no - - we do not take on problems by ourselves! But with God we discover how He takes care of things. And He has us helping one another with prayer and other help.

And do not boast and assume how great you will be in marriage. You are still young. We all need to grow more so we really do what God desires.

***Become able to make sure with God about things.***