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Is it wrong for a Catholic parish to do this?

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Lady Bug said:
The parish that I used to be a member of is starting weekly Friday fish fry's. Right now, it is a "test run." They have a "fish boil" event on March 28 and April 4, and it sounds really nice (as far as food is concerned) but they are only letting parishioners attend. Maybe it's about the amount of food that will be available but I'm almost certain that Catholic parishes are supposed to be more inclusive toward Catholics of other parishes who might want to attend an event at another Catholic parish. For example, I know that two parishes within a certain driving distance from me have either dine-in or drive-thru fish fry events (or both) and they don't restrict it to only their parishioners. It doesn't seem like Catholic thing to do, to restrict this kind of event to Catholics only at their parish, IMHO. It seems like it goes against the "We're all one body" mantra.

Before anyone says that maybe they didn't have enough food and that's why they restricted it to only their own people - well - if that's the case, they shouldn't have set up the event, period, but redirect its parishioners to other fish fry's at other parishes instead.
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Maybe it’s finances with the desire for their parishioners to intermingle and get to know each other better. I mean it’s their parish and I’m sure there is solid reasons for them going this direction. You could always ask why. Just call the parish office. :)

Fish fries can be very impersonal. A convenience thing. So maybe they are trying to personalize it a bit this time of year for those that worship together.
 
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Also, potlucks are often parishioners only as well. That is across the board, Protestant or Catholic.

Special dinners and fundraisers are advertised for what they are. Funeral dinners, community dinners, eucumenical, etc.
 
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Michie said:
Also, potlucks are often parishioners only as well. That is across the board, Protestant or Catholic.

Special dinners and fundraisers are advertised for what they are. Funeral dinners, community dinners, eucumenical, etc.
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Yup. That’s also been my experience.
 
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Instead of jumping to conclusions, just call the parish office and ask.

Never a good time but it is Lent and we should not be thinking the worst. :praying:
 
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Lady Bug said:
I see. My parish potlucks are for people of any parish to attend. The community dinners I see for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter are for people of any parish as well. I understand about more private things like funerals and weddings; of course that might be more tailored to a specific target base.
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Well like I said, maybe you should ask. I’ve seen it before and I’ll see it again. I have no issues with it. *shrug* there are a million Friday Fish Fries to take advantage of during Lent.
 
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To be honest, I've had issues with this parish aside from this, lol.
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Well that may the root of the issue right there. Seriously, I’d call them for you asking about it if I could.
 
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Lady Bug said:
The parish that I used to be a member of is starting weekly Friday fish fry's. Right now, it is a "test run." They have a "fish boil" event on March 28 and April 4, and it sounds really nice (as far as food is concerned) but they are only letting parishioners attend. Maybe it's about the amount of food that will be available but I'm almost certain that Catholic parishes are supposed to be more inclusive toward Catholics of other parishes who might want to attend an event at another Catholic parish. For example, I know that two parishes within a certain driving distance from me have either dine-in or drive-thru fish fry events (or both) and they don't restrict it to only their parishioners. It doesn't seem like Catholic thing to do, to restrict this kind of event to Catholics only at their parish, IMHO. It seems like it goes against the "We're all one body" mantra.

Before anyone says that maybe they didn't have enough food and that's why they restricted it to only their own people - well - if that's the case, they shouldn't have set up the event, period, but redirect its parishioners to other fish fry's at other parishes instead.
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I can see where you’re coming from our parishes encourage us to visit the others. Having said that it’s not something I’d leave over.
i wouldn’t say it’s “wrong” but it is unusual.
 
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Lady Bug said:
The parish that I used to be a member of is starting weekly Friday fish fry's. Right now, it is a "test run." They have a "fish boil" event on March 28 and April 4, and it sounds really nice (as far as food is concerned) but they are only letting parishioners attend. Maybe it's about the amount of food that will be available but I'm almost certain that Catholic parishes are supposed to be more inclusive toward Catholics of other parishes who might want to attend an event at another Catholic parish. For example, I know that two parishes within a certain driving distance from me have either dine-in or drive-thru fish fry events (or both) and they don't restrict it to only their parishioners. It doesn't seem like Catholic thing to do, to restrict this kind of event to Catholics only at their parish, IMHO. It seems like it goes against the "We're all one body" mantra.

Before anyone says that maybe they didn't have enough food and that's why they restricted it to only their own people - well - if that's the case, they shouldn't have set up the event, period, but redirect its parishioners to other fish fry's at other parishes instead.
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It's a test run. I would bet that's why, but the only way you will know is to ask them. Give them a call.
 
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Lady Bug said:
The parish that I used to be a member of is starting weekly Friday fish fry's. Right now, it is a "test run." They have a "fish boil" event on March 28 and April 4, and it sounds really nice (as far as food is concerned) but they are only letting parishioners attend. Maybe it's about the amount of food that will be available but I'm almost certain that Catholic parishes are supposed to be more inclusive toward Catholics of other parishes who might want to attend an event at another Catholic parish. For example, I know that two parishes within a certain driving distance from me have either dine-in or drive-thru fish fry events (or both) and they don't restrict it to only their parishioners. It doesn't seem like Catholic thing to do, to restrict this kind of event to Catholics only at their parish, IMHO. It seems like it goes against the "We're all one body" mantra.

Before anyone says that maybe they didn't have enough food and that's why they restricted it to only their own people - well - if that's the case, they shouldn't have set up the event, period, but redirect its parishioners to other fish fry's at other parishes instead.
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Considering it's pretty normal for parishes to control the size of a parish event, and considering maybe this is something they specifically want their parishioners to enjoy and benefit from vs random strangers or people other parishes, I don't think it's necessarily off base. But @Michie has the best advice, best to call the parish office and get clarification straight from the horses mouth than to make assumptions.
 
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