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I was bullied at church. Why should I go back?

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I am very sorry that happened to you. Some people in the world are just jerks. Sometimes jerks even make their way into church.

It should not happen, but I'm not going to pretend that it does not.

If being in a bigger crowd does not bother you, I'd suggest visiting a larger church a few times, and sit on the aisle on an exit row.

This isn't ideal. But, in your case it has a few advantages.

In a small church a newbie can sometimes get a lot of attention. But, it is easier to be "lost in the crowd" in a bigger church and if you do get uncomfortable and want to leave you can do so without an issue.

As you feel more comfortable you can try other churches or mingle a little more.
 
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soldier of light said:
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You already know the reason you developed that mechanism, so why do things from so many years ago still control your responses to others ?
What I feared at age ten doesn't still scare me.
I found ways to avoid, or deal with, things that scared me.
You seem to have gotten stuck in the past.

Life is a constant story of encountering new and different things.
We get the opportunity to fine-tune our responses to events over time.
What doesn't work in the past is put away in favor of new tactics.
Either adapt, or stick with an outdated response that stifles your emotional growth.
 
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Hoping2 said:
You already know the reason you developed that mechanism, so why do things from so many years ago still control your responses to others ?
What I feared at age ten doesn't still scare me.
I found ways to avoid, or deal with, things that scared me.
You seem to have gotten stuck in the past.

Life is a constant story of encountering new and different things.
We get the opportunity to fine-tune our responses to events over time.
What doesn't work in the past is put away in favor of new tactics.
Either adapt, or stick with an outdated response that stifles your emotional growth.
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You have no clue my friend. You're assuming these thing's.
 
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Hoping2 said:
Either adapt, or stick with an outdated response that stifles your emotional growth.
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I have much joy, peace and love. I dont know how much more mature I can get emotionally. The anxiety attacks are not immaturity but are a physical illness. Let's not debate here.
 
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Hoping2 said:
Then what is the topic of this thread ?

If it is a physical illness, see a doctor.
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I do see a doctor. But why are we debating it? The topic isn't about us.
 
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The thing about sowing seeds is that they grow according to the elements and it is not up to the human sowers to have them grow in the sower's image, but that they seek God on their own terms and in their own time. This is how God determines the heart of each of us, free of the interference of others. Not everyone's watering can is beneficial. We sow the seed and the rest is up to the plant and God. The plant seeks the nutrients it needs, not the other way around.
 
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