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Regarding premarital sex

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Well if you want me to be honest, in the interests of full disclosure there are a few other things.

When a believer who confessed to walking in sexual immorality saying;

“A few days ago, we had contact with sensitive areas, but it wasn't deep enough.”

You responded by saying;

“I have zero judgment and a strong heart cry on your behalf, and will be praying for you earnestly.”

But that was not true because your proud and rebellious words were full of judgement because the word of God says;

1 John 5:16 NKJV
If anyone sees his brother sinning a sin which does not lead to death, he will ask, and He will give him life for those who commit sin not leading to death. There is sin leading to death. I do not say that he should pray about that.

Sexual immorality is sin that leads to death. Revelation 21.8.

You judged the word of God as errant and claimed openly that you would not follow it, and even boasted that your rebellion revealed “zero judgement” but can you not see that you judged the word of God as wrong?

If the word of God instructs us to do one thing and we do another and even boast about our intended rebellion, is that not judging the word of God?

Do you think I was surprised that you judged me for manifesting error according to the scripture;

Ephesians 5: KJV
[13] But all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is light.

The things “I keep throwing at you” are scriptures revealing your rebellion and disobedience to the word of God, and your judgement against me for my obedience, and if you were able to discern the truth, and the error in your rebellion, you would realise that that is what offends you.

You would also realise what possesses you to claim that you are going to disobey the word of God and boast that your actions reveal “zero judgement.”
Good to see your heart motives.

Praying for you.

Thanks.
 
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Regarding premarital sex

I am 51 years old and have a non Christian girlfriend. We both have never married. Our physical intimacy has been increasing recently. A few days ago, we had contact with sensitive areas, but it wasn't deep enough. Actually, this can also be considered as sexual activity. She will come to my house tomorrow. I'm afraid sexual activity will escalate.

I really wish she was still a virgin and I was still a virgin at the wedding. She should earn dignity. But now it seems unlikely. I ended her virginity. She dare not explain her relationship with me to her mother. I have bipolar disorder, weak physical condition, and low social status. She works at a government run rehabilitation station for people with mental and intellectual disabilities(handicapped), where I am a student and she is a teacher. She still has genuine concern for vulnerable groups. She is a Master of Comparative Literature from the UK and has some Persian heritage, so I gave her the biblical name Esther (Queen of Persia). We are both ethnic minorities of the Hui ethnic group in China, living in Beijing.She has an adopted boy who thinks his father has been abroad for a long time and doesn't know he's not Esther's biological child. She also dared not explain her relationship with me to the child. I am willing to accept her and her child. I hope that in the future, my health will not be too poor and I can take on the responsibilities of a husband and father. She is also willing to show filial piety to my parents. My parents are very accepting of her.

What should I do? I am on the path towards unmarried cohabitation. She said she might follow me to believe in the Lord. But we are not sure what the future holds.

Thank you for your advice.


When I was praying for you the LORD gave me a message as follows. I am not 100% sure what it means but I will discuss.

“Har Yara Rabbi, Har Yara Rabbi, Har Yara Rabbi, Inshallah”

Which according to AI means:

The term "Har Yara Rabbi" seems to resemble a combination of Hebrew words, though it might not be a standard phrase or expression. Here's a breakdown:

  • Har (הר) means "mountain" in Hebrew.
  • Yara (יָרַע) can mean "to fear" or "to be afraid," though it's more often used in a biblical or poetic sense. It could also refer to "to shoot" or "to aim" in different contexts, but it’s not as common in modern usage.
  • Rabbi (רַבִּי) is a well-known term, meaning "my teacher" or "master," typically referring to a Jewish scholar or spiritual leader.
So, "Har Yara Rabbi" could be interpreted as something like "The mountain (of) fear, my teacher," but the phrase doesn't seem to form a complete or conventional meaning in Hebrew.

I then got the words “Alpine, and ski”


I wonder if this cryptic message means, you have a mountain of fear, but like with skiing, you will come down off it.


I was also told plainly in English.

“Hope in God. Do not put your trust in women, children, and family. People will not always believe you, but you must believe me. Trust in God.”


The thing with marriage is it always about daily routine, exercise videos , bread, cooking, Acid Garlic, Parmesan Cheese. It is just stuff. But on a spiritual level if you marry the wrong person, it can be “destruction , devastation , destruction , destruction”, it will hinder you walk with God.


My opinion is wait until your girlfriend becomes a Christian. Then marry. God can do it. My sister was dating a man who was an unbeliever, she took him to church, he converted, they are now both believers and happily married.



As for the sexual side, keep away from sexual desire, flee it:

1Co_6:18 Flee sexual immorality
 
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