- Aug 23, 2007
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Hi, I hate to say this but my dad's rhetoric makes me want to off myself. He was on the phone with my brother and basically implied that my brother has no future unless he gets married. Naturally, my dad believes the same about me too. The thing is, it's easier said than done for me. These are my obstacles -
- I don't want to find someone while my dad is alive. I'm positive that he won't like anyone.
- I don't want my extended (Muslim) family to meet the person. That makes me a red flag for anyone and everyone, because someone who doesn't want you to meet their family is a red flag.
- I don't think I should be entering into a new family if I don't know whether or not someone would kill me for being Christian. The whole family could be in danger.
- I'm not open to life (as a single person).
- Marriage would impede my devotion to God. I can worship God way better, not being married.
- I have severe sexual dysfunction from a medication and the dysfunction might not reverse.
The problem is, I also don't know how to survive without being married either. My dad says that if I need help in the way he does and I'm not married, I would be in deep trouble. The thing is, he relies on the notion that your children will automatically help you out.
In the Christian (particularly Catholic) world, there are older singles who never marry or who never remarry. I don't know if they have family members who could support them, but unfortunately it's not the case for me. No one from my mom's side talks to us. My dad's side will never be able to take care of me, especially toward end of life.
I kind of wish I could just decide for myself. And no this is not some feminist sheet. I really have a problem with myself getting married.
- I don't want to find someone while my dad is alive. I'm positive that he won't like anyone.
- I don't want my extended (Muslim) family to meet the person. That makes me a red flag for anyone and everyone, because someone who doesn't want you to meet their family is a red flag.
- I don't think I should be entering into a new family if I don't know whether or not someone would kill me for being Christian. The whole family could be in danger.
- I'm not open to life (as a single person).
- Marriage would impede my devotion to God. I can worship God way better, not being married.
- I have severe sexual dysfunction from a medication and the dysfunction might not reverse.
The problem is, I also don't know how to survive without being married either. My dad says that if I need help in the way he does and I'm not married, I would be in deep trouble. The thing is, he relies on the notion that your children will automatically help you out.
In the Christian (particularly Catholic) world, there are older singles who never marry or who never remarry. I don't know if they have family members who could support them, but unfortunately it's not the case for me. No one from my mom's side talks to us. My dad's side will never be able to take care of me, especially toward end of life.
I kind of wish I could just decide for myself. And no this is not some feminist sheet. I really have a problem with myself getting married.
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