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Why did the Bible not command wives to love their husbands?

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Ep 5:

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Paul commanded wives to submit to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Paul commanded husbands to G25-agape-love their wives.

33 Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Similarly, Col 3:

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
1 Peter 3:

1 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands.
Men were told to love sacrificially, while women were told to submit voluntarily. This was the basic balancing act of a husband-wife relationship.

Was it okay for a wife not to love her husband?

No. Paul instructed older women in Titus 2:

4b they can train the young women to love their husbands and children.
This was not G25-agape-love.

Strong's Greek: 5362. φίλανδρος (philandros) — 1 Occurrence

HELPS Word-studies:

5362 phílandros (from 5384 /phílos, "loving friend" and 435 /anḗr, "husband, the male companion of a wife") – properly, the special affection of a woman for her life-time mate (husband), embracing him as her "calling" (stewardship) from God (used only in Tit 2:4).
Wives were to G5384-affectionately-love their husbands.

Was it okay for a wife not to agape-love her husband?

No. 1J 4:

Beloved [G27], let us love [G25] one another, for love [G26] is from God, and whoever loves [G25] has been born of God and knows God.
Why did the Bible not command wives to love their husbands?

Actually, it did. Paul and Peter emphasized wives' submission to their husbands at times but did not explicitly command them to agape-love their husbands. However, as Christians, Paul and Peter assumed that wives were to agape-love their husbands without saying it. Wives prioritized being loved, while husbands prioritized being respected. In any case, wives were explicitly instructed to G5384-affectionately-love their husbands.
 

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Maybe because we husbands are not loveable? :D

But, seriously, I guess it's because God wanted the husband to be the leader of the wife as Christ is the leader (cornerstone, head) of the church and he wants the husband to be a Christ-like example for his wife.
 
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