- Aug 6, 2024
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My boyfriend (male 29) and I (female 32) met about a year ago and we’ve been in this great relationship, he brought me closer to God and made me in general a better woman. So I have a lot to thank him for but that’s also why I hold him in high standards.
When we first started dating he mentioned he had an addiction with porn but that since we met he stopped watching it. Because he knows as a man of God that’s not ok.
Yesterday, I had a feeling he watched porn when I came home and I asked him and he said “yes I’m sorry” and he went on for 4 hours telling me That throughout our relationship he’s done it 2 other times and that he didn’t say anything to me because he thought I would judge him so he was working it on it on his own.
Btw, I consider myself a beautiful latin woman (sorry if my English isn’t perfect when typing, this isn’t my first language) and I’m sure I make him happy in every aspect of life, I know he wants to marry me, etc. but yet he watched porn. He says it has nothing to do with me because he finds me very attractive. He says this is like any other addiction where the dopamine needs to be fed. But that he would never cheat on me or anything like that.
Besides this issue he really is a good man but I can’t stop thinking that I’m not enough for him and that he still in a way cheated on me abs that his intentions were not to tell me but because I asked him then he had to. This makes me doubt his integrity and his feelings for me. Even though he says this is not who he is and is just a temptation coming from the dark side and that he lost the battle but not the war.
I just don’t know if I can take away the images of him watching porn. He also said he didn’t get to the point of masturbation (but that’s mostly because I called him saying I was coming home) but he said that when I called he was already “on his way out”
At this point his word has taking credibility and I don’t even know if I believe him that when I called he was on “his way out” of it.
I just want to make sure that I’m choosing the man God wants for me and that later on when I’m old, my husband will still want me and won’t be wishing other woman. He says he wouldn’t do that but I don’t know anymore.
Please if you are of Christian faith as a man or a woman I’d love to hear your advice. I don’t want to tell anyone in my life close to me because they might judge him for a long time without knowing all the good things on him but I do need advice. I want to know what should I do. If I break up with him, if I forgive him, if I take my time been cold to him and distant (this one is how I currently feel)
Long story short, my boyfriend who’s supposed to be a man of God whom I told him that if he ever watched porn he should tell me, didn’t tell me until I asked him and I don’t know if I should stay on this relationship or break up.
When we first started dating he mentioned he had an addiction with porn but that since we met he stopped watching it. Because he knows as a man of God that’s not ok.
Yesterday, I had a feeling he watched porn when I came home and I asked him and he said “yes I’m sorry” and he went on for 4 hours telling me That throughout our relationship he’s done it 2 other times and that he didn’t say anything to me because he thought I would judge him so he was working it on it on his own.
Btw, I consider myself a beautiful latin woman (sorry if my English isn’t perfect when typing, this isn’t my first language) and I’m sure I make him happy in every aspect of life, I know he wants to marry me, etc. but yet he watched porn. He says it has nothing to do with me because he finds me very attractive. He says this is like any other addiction where the dopamine needs to be fed. But that he would never cheat on me or anything like that.
Besides this issue he really is a good man but I can’t stop thinking that I’m not enough for him and that he still in a way cheated on me abs that his intentions were not to tell me but because I asked him then he had to. This makes me doubt his integrity and his feelings for me. Even though he says this is not who he is and is just a temptation coming from the dark side and that he lost the battle but not the war.
I just don’t know if I can take away the images of him watching porn. He also said he didn’t get to the point of masturbation (but that’s mostly because I called him saying I was coming home) but he said that when I called he was already “on his way out”
At this point his word has taking credibility and I don’t even know if I believe him that when I called he was on “his way out” of it.
I just want to make sure that I’m choosing the man God wants for me and that later on when I’m old, my husband will still want me and won’t be wishing other woman. He says he wouldn’t do that but I don’t know anymore.
Please if you are of Christian faith as a man or a woman I’d love to hear your advice. I don’t want to tell anyone in my life close to me because they might judge him for a long time without knowing all the good things on him but I do need advice. I want to know what should I do. If I break up with him, if I forgive him, if I take my time been cold to him and distant (this one is how I currently feel)
Long story short, my boyfriend who’s supposed to be a man of God whom I told him that if he ever watched porn he should tell me, didn’t tell me until I asked him and I don’t know if I should stay on this relationship or break up.
