Woman are chasing the top 10% of high value men.

KJ91 · Jun 29, 2024

So how are the rest 90 % gonna get married?

Women are trying to be the man that they want, diplomas, corporate / high level management positions, self sufficient, &ct
Men have just opted out of the scene.
There is too much risk for them on many different levels. Even approaching a woman could lead to being labeled a “creep” or even as “unsolicited advancement” from the woman’s perspective. Who wants that kind of label, at Church even!
That’s where we should be looking for wives and husbands…

trophy33 · Jun 29, 2024

KJ91 said:
So how are the rest 90 % gonna get married?

Obviously, more than 10% of men are getting married.

The chasing stats are from online dating, in the real world women must make compromises. As one psychologist said, women treat men like a career, men treat women like an investment.

SarahsKnight · Jun 29, 2024

(Original thoughts deleted.)

EDIT: I was being sarcastic before and I should not have done that, as it was aimed at another, real living person. That is not becoming of a man who dares to call himself a believer in Jesus Christ. I apologize to everyone who saw this post as it was originally, and to KJ91. In earnest I strongly disagree with the sentiments expressed in your beginning post here, KJ91, and many of your past posts that just seem accusatory and somewhat entitled towards women in general. But even so, sarcasm towards this on my part will not help, especially if it is the kind that makes you feel unwelcome here.

bèlla · Jun 29, 2024

A woman's pursuits don't prevent a man from doing the same if the desire exists. No one is barring you from school or restricting access to opportunities to enhance your knowledge and skills. If you choose to spend your time elsewhere and others don't it shouldn't surprise you when their salaries increase. It's a question of priorities.

But you're dealing with a different demographic which leads me to surmise they're subjecting you to the same, holding you to a standard you're not aware of, or desirous of qualities you don't possess.

The question isn't what women are doing to men but why you're not connecting with those in the fold. That's your problem.

~bella

TheLastGeek · Jun 29, 2024

KJ91 said:
So how are the rest 90 % gonna get married?

Women are trying to be the man that they want, diplomas, corporate / high level management positions, self sufficient, &ct
Men have just opted out of the scene.
There is too much risk for them on many different levels. Even approaching a woman could lead to being labeled a “creep” or even as “unsolicited advancement” from the woman’s perspective. Who wants that kind of label, at Church even!
That’s where we should be looking for wives and husbands…

Now I remember why I left CF, lol. The constant, toxic woman-hating.

There is nothing wrong with a woman being self-sufficient or educated. In fact, it's something to be praised and encouraged. Women are intelligent, thinking, intellectual beings, no less than men are. I know some men still struggle with grasping this reality, and they believe women are subhuman, sandwich-making baby factories. I'm not sorry to inform people that this is false.

Being an intelligent, educated, self-sufficient woman does not make her more likely to think that unsolicited advances from men are creepy. You are trying to correlate things here that have no correlation.

Stop approaching frigid, paranoid, hateful women. Stop BEING a creep. Do those two things and you'll never again encounter being labeled a creep by a harpy who isn't interested. Learn how to view women with respect, honor, and humility, and to approach them with gentility, politeness, and a lack of ulterior motives.

LoveDivine · Jun 29, 2024

These threads always make me laugh.

Honestly, this is getting embarrassing. The recent threads being posted by some of the men in Singles are a joke. The only hope is that most of these threads are troll threads.

KJ91 · Jun 29, 2024

TheLastGeek said:
Now I remember why I left CF, lol. The constant, toxic woman-hating.

There is nothing wrong with a woman being self-sufficient or educated. In fact, it's something to be praised and encouraged. Women are intelligent, thinking, intellectual beings, no less than men are. I know some men still struggle with grasping this reality, and they believe women are subhuman, sandwich-making baby factories. I'm not sorry to inform people that this is false.

Being an intelligent, educated, self-sufficient woman does not make her more likely to think that unsolicited advances from men are creepy. You are trying to correlate things here that have no correlation.

Stop approaching frigid, paranoid, hateful women. Stop BEING a creep. Do those two things and you'll never again encounter being labeled a creep by a harpy who isn't interested. Learn how to view women with respect, honor, and humility, and to approach them with gentility, politeness, and a lack of ulterior motives.

Facts is not women hating

I approached all kinds of women.

Learn how to view women with respect, honor, and humility, and to approach them with gentility, politeness?
thats what i been doing since day 1.

the women I dated, about 100, all lose interest after I video chat with them. they all said they didn't like my looks.
not one of them said i behaved bad

bèlla · Jun 29, 2024

Why don't they know what you look like beforehand? Are your photos that different from a live shot? There should be little to no discrepancy between the two.

100 prospects is pretty large. 0 for 100 is doubtful. The numbers don't add up.

~bella

High Fidelity · Jun 29, 2024

KJ91 said:
Facts is not women hating

I approached all kinds of women.

Learn how to view women with respect, honor, and humility, and to approach them with gentility, politeness?
thats what i been doing since day 1.

the women I dated, about 100, all lose interest after I video chat with them. they all said they didn't like my looks.
not one of them said i behaved bad

Not every woman is going to find you attractive.

Come on.

TheLastGeek · Jun 29, 2024

KJ91 said:
Facts is not women hating

I approached all kinds of women.

Learn how to view women with respect, honor, and humility, and to approach them with gentility, politeness?
thats what i been doing since day 1.

the women I dated, about 100, all lose interest after I video chat with them. they all said they didn't like my looks.
not one of them said i behaved bad

Why are you approaching "all kinds of women"? That may be part of your problem right there. You aren't approaching the particular women that you have a particular interest in, and who have given you some kind of reason to believe they may be interested in you in return. You're out there throwing your hook at anything that looks remotely female and acceptable. A HUNDRED women? First of all, if they're dumping you after a video chat, that means you haven't met them in person; therefore you haven't "dated" them. Dating is something done face to face, not online.

So every single woman out of a hundred gave you the EXACT same reason for not being interested in you? There was zero variation? Nobody giving you the "hey, you're being creepy" accusation that you made sure to specify in your opening post?

bèlla · Jun 29, 2024

Men have consistently acknowledged poor responses from the opposite sex in this medium. With the majority admitting their inquiries are ignored. But you've done what they couldn't and convinced 100 to talk to you and all of them said no?

This has to be a troll post.

~bella

Tranquil Bondservant · Jun 29, 2024

KJ91 said:
So how are the rest 90 % gonna get married?

Women are trying to be the man that they want, diplomas, corporate / high level management positions, self sufficient, &ct
Men have just opted out of the scene.
There is too much risk for them on many different levels. Even approaching a woman could lead to being labeled a “creep” or even as “unsolicited advancement” from the woman’s perspective. Who wants that kind of label, at Church even!
That’s where we should be looking for wives and husbands…

I personally haven't dated anybody so I can't speak to the number, though I do believe it is very exaggerated, but I think a lot of what you wrote is wrong. There may be a lot of women who are attracted to the things which you listed, but I believe there are equally the same amount of men who have their own requirements for a partner which would be the male equivalent of what you listed. Ultimately I think that if a woman follows Christ they will have the spiritual requirements be of the foremost concern and if a man does he would would have the same (or judging by the many posts currently on the forum proving the opposite; should). That's not to say that seeking someone who has some stability or contains some of the things which you listed is a bad thing, but Christians should value the things of Christ immeasurably above anything else. The last thing you should be doing as a Christian is dating those who are of the world, as they are not of the same Spirit as you, nor do they care about the things which matter and that are eternal.

I would ask please that for your own sake you would refrain from posting more things which generally malign the opposite gender (I would say this to a woman doing it as well). I understand you may be coming from a place of pain as this kind of posting is usually catharsis for such a thing, but there's no reason to post this kind of material and the content of the posts can never be justified regardless of the feeling which led to it. It comes across as bitterness and bitterness is incredibly dangerous spiritually as it's something that the Devil would use to establish a stronghold in your life. If you wanted to discuss things to do with society and the spiritual state of the modern Church which you perceive to be filled with problems, then I think it would be far more productive than essentially making a post which calls 90% of women shallow.

Tranquil Bondservant · Jun 29, 2024

LoveDivine said:
The only hope is that most of these threads are troll threads.

It truly is the only hope, but judging by the consistency of them...

ReesePiece23 · Jun 29, 2024

Oh well, at least none of you are upset about it...

KJ91 · Jun 30, 2024

bèlla said:
Why don't they know what you look like beforehand? Are your photos that different from a live shot? There should be little to no discrepancy between the two.

100 prospects is pretty large. 0 for 100 is doubtful. The numbers don't add up.

~bella

they did, but pics and videochat is not really the same

KJ91 · Jun 30, 2024

High Fidelity said:
Not every woman is going to find you attractive.

Come on.

ofc. but no woman found my face attractive,ever

trophy33 · Jun 30, 2024

KJ91 said:
ofc. but no woman found my face attractive,ever

Plastic surgery, if you firmly believe your face is the cause of all your troubles and hinders happiness from you.

I do not think it is, but if you do think so, you can do something even with that.

KJ91 · Jun 30, 2024

TheLastGeek said:
Why are you approaching "all kinds of women"? That may be part of your problem right there. You aren't approaching the particular women that you have a particular interest in, and who have given you some kind of reason to believe they may be interested in you in return. You're out there throwing your hook at anything that looks remotely female and acceptable. A HUNDRED women? First of all, if they're dumping you after a video chat, that means you haven't met them in person; therefore you haven't "dated" them. Dating is something done face to face, not online.

So every single woman out of a hundred gave you the EXACT same reason for not being interested in you? There was zero variation? Nobody giving you the "hey, you're being creepy" accusation that you made sure to specify in your opening post?

becuse i have to try, cant just lock myself to 1 group

im 33, tried dating since i was 14. so 100 is not that much. i got to know them. often months. with some years.

Videochat is almost as IRL, after they saw what i looked like they lost interest,
some few i meet IRL

Correct all of them said they where not attracted to my looks. Nothing else. Since everyone said that, its proof im too ugly for love.

KJ91 · Jun 30, 2024

bèlla said:
Men have consistently acknowledged poor responses from the opposite sex in this medium. With the majority admitting their inquiries are ignored. But you've done what they couldn't and convinced 100 to talk to you and all of them said no?

This has to be a troll post.

~bella

i wish i was trolling. but im not

bèlla · Jun 30, 2024

KJ91 said:
they did, but pics and videochat is not really the same

The only reason there would be a difference is if you've changed significantly since the photo was taken (age, weight, etc) or the image is heavily edited (i.e. filters, photoshop).

~bella

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