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You don’t have to like her to love her. Really?

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No single Koine word corresponded 1-to-1 to the English word "like".

2 Corinthians 9:

7 Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves [G25] a cheerful giver.
God likes a cheerful giver. God is fond of a cheerful giver. God finds pleasure in a cheerful giver.

In the NT, G25-agape love usually meant a noble kind of love but it had other nuances particularly outside of the Bible.

BDAG ἀγαπάω:

2 Cor 9:7.—Jesus’ affection for people Ἰ. ἠγάπησεν αὐτον J. liked him or was fond of him Mk 10:21 (displayed affection, caressed him has also been suggested;
Contemporary English Version, Mark 10:

21 Jesus looked closely at the man. He liked [G25] him and said, "There's one thing you still need to do. Go sell everything you own. Give the money to the poor, and you will have riches in heaven. Then come with me."
Ἀγαπῶ μῆλον means I love apple. There is nothing noble about that.

There was another word for "love": G5368, φιλέω, phileó. BDAG:

① to have a special interest in someone or someth., freq. with focus on close association, have affection for, like, consider someone a friend.
John 21:

17 The third time he said to him, “Simon son of John, do you love [G5368 like] me?” Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, “Do you love [G5368] me?” He said, “Lord, you know all things; you know that I love [G5368] you.” Jesus said, “Feed my sheep.
Both agape-love and phileo-love carried a nuance of "like".

You don’t have to like her to love her. Really?

Right, you don't have to emotionally like her to nobly love her self-sacrificially. That's true. However, I would not completely divorce the liking aspect from agape or phileo. I would not emphasize that liking dimension either. It is not the primary or defining characteristic of agape love. If I agape-love her self-sacrificially, that itself would give me some pleasure, so I must have liked her in some way.

For the Father so agape-loved me that he gave his one and only Son, that if I believe in him, I shall not perish but have eternal life.
 

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No single Koine word corresponded 1-to-1 to the English word "like".

2 Corinthians 9:


God likes a cheerful giver. God is fond of a cheerful giver. God finds pleasure in a cheerful giver.

In the NT, G25-agape love usually meant a noble kind of love but it had other nuances particularly outside of the Bible.

BDAG ἀγαπάω:


Contemporary English Version, Mark 10:


Ἀγαπῶ μῆλον means I love apple. There is nothing noble about that.

There was another word for "love": G5368, φιλέω, phileó. BDAG:


John 21:


Both agape-love and phileo-love carried a nuance of "like".

You don’t have to like her to love her. Really?

Right, you don't have to emotionally like her to nobly love her self-sacrificially. That's true. However, I would not completely divorce the liking aspect from agape or phileo. I would not emphasize that liking dimension either. It is not the primary or defining characteristic of agape love. If I agape-love her self-sacrificially, that itself would give me some pleasure, so I must have liked her in some way.

For the Father so agape-loved me that he gave his one and only Son, that if I believe in him, I shall not perish but have eternal life.
The popular interpretation of G25-agape to mean noble/divine love indeed is incorrect - we only need one example from the NT itself to disprove that:

John 3:19
And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved (G25-agape) the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil.​

Whenever we're commanded to love by Bible verses, it's never about emotion, because emotions cannot be commanded - it's always about actions. Loving God means we have set certain priorities and DO things, loving Yeshua means doing what He says/teaches, loving your wife means doing so she gets what she is entitled to according to the marriage covenant !!
 
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