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If we share the same values & like doing the same things should I still see the same person if have different love languages ?
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Should I dump a person I’m in a relationship with if we don’t share the same love languages ?
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Sure, you should still see the same person. Because if Jesus Christ is at the very center of those values and activities, then any differences in "love languages" dwindle to insignificant hurdles that should be nothing more than bumps in the road.
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I know people who's love languages are different and they are happy together.
So he speaks her love language by buying her what she likes or watching a chick flick with her, things like that.
She knows that one of his love languages is a great home cooked meal and she was going to cook dinner anyway, so she made his favorite and he's all like, honey, I love you.
There's no reason to dump them if they have different love languages. He's a man, your a girl so it can kind of be expected for you to have different love languages.
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No. Everyone has different love languages. One may want romance and genuine concern. The other may be motivated by sex. But sex is not really a love language but a result of love languages melding together. Sex is a union of those languages. Sex should never be a demand and falsely called a love language. Love languages equal to how you treat one another outside the bedroom. If done right, it can end up in a sexual union that both enjoy. Too many call sex their love language where it is really a demand and turns into a chore for the other. Too many claim sex as a love language. No. It’s not. That never works. It’s a result of a loving mutual relationship outside the bedroom.
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I don't think sex has ever been a love language. It doesn't have anything to do with sex. That's just a line young guys use, lol.
The way I understand it, there are 5 love languages that people use to express love for each other. They are, words of affirmation (Give compliments), Quality time, giving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch (not associated with sex).
They say if you show each other a single drop of love every day that the relationship will be strong. But what would happen if you drenched her in 5 gallons instead? She would get spoiled, yikes.
Many women know the secret of acts of service and it's value. She made my favorite dinner! I like that love language.
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It’s not all young men that claim sex is a love language. And that’s scary.
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Yeah but it's still just a line. If you love me then give me some or else I guess you really dont love me...it's not a love language, that is manipulation. That's not fair to the girl.
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I agree. But unfortunately a lot of men really do not understand women and really do think sex does equate to a love language. I’ve read it on these very boards.
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The things I have read, it is never treated as a love language. It should be the result of two love languages working well together when both parties desire it.
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