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Desire and lust

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Berean Study Bible James 1:
15 Then after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.
desire
ἐπιθυμία (epithymia)
Strong's 1939: Desire, eagerness for, inordinate desire, lust. From epithumeo; a longing.

Matthew 5:
28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
lust after
ἐπιθυμῆσαι (epithymēsai)
Strong's 1937: To long for, covet, lust after, set the heart upon. From epi and thumos; to set the heart upon, i.e. Long for.

These are two different but related Greek words. Looking at something is okay but looking at something to lust after or covet it is not okay. The Pharisees focused on external behaviors but Jesus shifted the focus inwardly to the heart. Your conscience will tell you whether you have sinned or not.

Lust is not just sexual. Acts 20:
33 I have not coveted [G1937] anyone’s silver or gold or clothing.
The same Greek word G1937 can mean "covet' or "earnestly desire". ESV Luke 22:15
And he said to them, “I have earnestly desired [G1937] to eat this Passover with you before I suffer.

The meanings of G1939-desire and G1937-lust overlap. If you desire a woman so much as to lust after to possess her, then it is a sin.
 
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So do married couples lust after each other on a regular basis? That would seem to be true under this definition.
 
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So do married couples lust after each other on a regular basis? That would seem to be true under this definition.
I don't think Jesus meant to apply this verse to married couples. In any case, it is not healthy for a man to treat his wife as a sexual object.
 
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In any case, it is not healthy for a man to treat his wife as a sexual object.
Are sexual desire and objectification the same thing?
 
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So do married couples lust after each other on a regular basis? That would seem to be true under this definition.
Yes, in the world they often do that, and even in "christian" circles/ groups.
See if possible the prohibition of continuing in passion as the gentiles do, in the Epistles somewhere.
 
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