Forgiving and Living Free from Hurts

Hazelelponi said:

Honestly, I find it beneficial to see others through God's eyes.

If you look at yourself, and your own faults realistically, then also see God forgave you everything despite your sins.

Then, look at others like you once were; faulty, broken, a complete mess, ignorant of God. While their faults and sins might be different to yours, God still forgives all who ask because He knows the depth of ignorance we are steeped in.

It's not like most people mean to hurt others, but it is ignorance of God and ignorance of the results of their actions that causes sin against God as well as sins against each other

When we see people through God's eyes as people either completely lost or growing in faith yet imperfect, then we see them with love and care despite their many sins and failings. It's easier to forgive when we see others in this light: the Light of God's eyes.

This doesn't mean you have to be a doormat for people, especially those who won't learn from their repeated mistakes (there is balance even here) but it will help you to forgive them and move forward in your own life..

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aiki said:

Well, in what way does the Bible say God forgives us? He's omniscient, so He can't actually forget the things for which He's forgiven us. But the Bible says He "remembers our sin no more" (Jeremiah 31:34; Hebrews 8:12) and separates our sins from us as far as the East is from the West (Psalms 103:12). What God really does is refuse to bring past sins for which we've been forgiven into the present. This is, I believe, the heart of godly forgiveness: A conscious, willful choosing to leave the sins of the past in the past.

This kind of forgiveness doesn't require that we feel like forgiving someone; it doesn't require that they have asked for our forgiveness, either. We must simply follow God's example toward us and "remember no more" those things for which we have chosen to forgive another; when we forgive, we agree never again to rehearse the past evils we have suffered at another's hands.

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GoldenKingGaze said:

Depending on your reading and comprehension ability, choose a short book like Rodney Hogue, Forgiveness, or a long one.

I think we have to decide to forgive three times a day, whenever we remember an offence. And stand in prayer and forgive, let them go from your anger to God's measures. Enjoy yourself. Also when you see them suffer, as from the proverbs, do not be happy, admire Jesus and Joseph from Genesis, with his brothers.

I have found that surrendering to the Spirit to bear the fruit of the Spirit, moves forgiveness.

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