Hi all
I found Christian's can be not so supportive when it comes to mental health and anxiety. I have suffered really bad anxiety to a point I getting help from a CBT therapist.
I, too, long ago struggled against profound anxiety (and depression, I think). I had panic attacks (sometimes three or four in a row), insomnia, hypnogogia, even swallowing and breathing issues - all stemming from deep anxiety and OCD thinking. Instead of turning to drugs and a therapist, though, I looked to God's word for the route to freedom from anxiety. And I found it.
Over and over again in the New Testament, Christians are told that in Christ, they can have a joyful, peaceful, psychologically-stable existence.
2 Timothy 1:7
7 for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
Galatians 5:22-23
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Matthew 11:28-30
28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Philippians 4:6-7
6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 1:2
2 Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
And so on.
When I read these verses and consider my own experience with God coming free of profound anxiety and the many Christians around me deeply mired in the World's way of responding to anxiety, never really coming free but put on addling drugs and made to attend a therapist's office every week, I am greatly saddened and frustrated. It is a travesty, in my opinion, that Christians have come to believe that God alone cannot lift their fears, obsessions, depression, and hurts.
In my case, then, when I don't agree with the typical reasoning someone like yourself has embraced about your anxiety - and expects me to embrace also - it isn't coldness, and cruelty, and condemnation that is the reason but concern and frustration at the terrible lies of the World so many like yourself have embraced about their poor state of mind and how to deal with it.
In all the many centuries prior to modern drugs and therapy, what did believers do who became depressed, or anxious, or hurt psychologically? When they sought God for relief, for the joy and peace He told them in His word was theirs in Christ, did God just shrug His shoulders and think, "You're oughta' luck. I can't do anything for you without drugs and a therapist"? Wouldn't that make God an incredible liar, His promises of strength, and peace, and rest in Himself, hollow and enormously misleading? That's what believers today, who so fiercely champion the modern psychological approach, are proposing, essentially.
But the writers of the NT themselves describe to us a deep, rich, joyful, incredibly fearless experience in their walk with God. Consider the apostle Paul, persecuted from without and within the Christian community, abused, criticized, even stoned and left for dead, at one point, often hungry and cold, imprisoned and finally beheaded at Rome, who did not descend into paralyzing fear and depression, in the absence of drugs and therapy helpless to do otherwise. No, he wrote instead,
Philippians 4:11-13
11 Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am.
12 I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need.
13 I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for you: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.
How did Paul manage such equanimity, such stability, under such intense persecution and deprivation without drugs and therapy? What about PTSD? What about the stress? Surely, he must have been crippled terribly with fear, and depression and the psychological pain of abuse? How can he say what he does above? It doesn't make sense, it shouldn't be possible, if modern psychology is true.
Paul is not alone, though. All throughout the last two millenia, Christian men and women in the face of vicious hardships and persecution, died with joy, praise of God on their lips, as they were butchered, or burned, or hung, or pulled apart by horses. How? They should have been cowering, psychologically-crushed people, crazed and paralyzed by stress, fear and abuse. But they weren't. No, they found, instead, that God was as good as His word and imparted to them in the Person of His Spirit supernatural power to remain at peace, joyful, even, in the face of staggering cruelty and pain.
What has happened to western Christians today? How far from this sort of experience of God they have drifted, so many of them now convinced that drugs and therapists - not God - are absolutely essential to proper mental health. What will they do when the approaching persecution of the Church begins, and they are cut off from their drugs and therapists, and set under the brutality and violence of those who hate them? Will God just shrug His shoulders and say, "Can't help you. You need drugs and a therapist." No, He will do as He promised in His word and take His children deep into Himself where they will find all they need to live in peace and rest regardless of their circumstances.
But I have found a real lack of support from Christian's, as in I feel that if i don't go to church that's it they stop engaging with me. I thought church people are meant to engage in the outside world.
Well, look at things from the perspective of those in your church you've forsaken. What could they reasonably assume from your departure from their community? It would seem, from their end, that you don't want their company; you left it, after all, right? They may well be thinking that they're respecting your decision to leave them by not chasing after you.
I feel the church is not taking anxiety and mental health seriously.
No, I think they're not taking
God seriously. See above.