I'd rather have people wearing condoms than having abortions and with the way the world has gone now, it's either going to be one or the other so unfortunately it's a lesser of two evils case and I think that it's clear in this instance that one of these is less evil than the other. Wearing a condom is not the same as aborting a child, I don't care how people try to spin it and if people wearing condoms means that abortions will go down, then I'm all for it.
See this is the church's problem: you can't just expect people not to have sex in 2021. Maybe a bunch of men who have never had sex can, but it's entirely unrealistic to expect people outside of the Catholic church (Lutherans, Baptists, Evangelicals) to hold to this idea just because the church has a Victorian level hangup about sex. Again it comes down to the lesser of two evils: be artificially preventing conception or allow conception to happen and then just murder the conceived person. I think that the answer is pretty clear here and if the church really cares about abortion, they need to be not necessarily encouraging people to use methods to prevent conception but to not treat a condom like it's the same thing as an abortion, because it isn't.
Oh Brother, I feel for you. You are where I was just a few years ago, and I understand the arguments, but the proliferation of contraception and condoms has not reduced abortions. They have gotten worse.
The Church does not expect people not to have sex in 2021, we know they will, but God has commanded you to not have sex unless you want children, and we are not to have children unless we are married.
Sex is a drug like opium. It serves no useful purpose unless practiced for what God intended. Opium was given by God in the opium poppy to use to relieve pain. The major opiates are morphine, diacetylmorphine (heroin), oxycodone, hydrocodone, fentanyl, demerol, and buprenorphine (suboxone). All of these can be used to relieve pain, improve function and relieve suffering when used in proper doses. Heroin is illegal in the USA, but is used in the UK for post operative pain control. They all work really well when used appropriately. When used for pure pleasure, they lead to addiction, misery, and death. An addict will tell you that it is unreasonable to ask him to give up his habit because it feels good and he sees nothing wrong. Even when trouble arrives, the drug has too much power in the addiction for him to stop without help.
Sex is much the same way. It serves no useful purpose when used for pleasure alone, and frequently leads to misery and death. I have two broken marriages to prove it; though no one has physically died; two of my children have divorced parents. Though we see the trail of misery in our wake, we still insist that we cannot give it up. It feels too good and we need it. Sound familiar?
It is not a Victorian hang-up about sex, but it is a command of God that we shall not commit adultery. We say ok, we won't have sex with married people. Not so fast, Jesus says that if we even look at a woman with lust, then we have already committed adultery in our hearts. We say the Lord is too hard, we can't stop looking at women, we are men, we think of sex all the time. That may be true in our natural state, but God has promised to cleanse us from all unrighteousness; we need to ask God for grace, just as the addict must ask for help. The road to recovery is long and hard, but it can be done, because God promised. We will fall because our flesh is weak, but we must never become so stubborn that we say the teaching is wrong because it is impossible. Nothing is impossible with God.
Women are not sex objects created for our pleasure; they are mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, grandmothers and virgins. I have no right to think of them to derive pleasure. When I look at a woman now, I first think of children. Am I looking at her to have children? If the answer is no, then the sexual thoughts fade away; if they remain, they become disgusting and shameful. This is not hang-up or prudishness; this is righteousness. The church teaches the truth, and cannot err, by the power of the Holy Spirit. I am obligated to submit.
Scriptures to consider:
1Cor6:18 18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Romans 8:13 13 For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
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4 For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but sent them to hell, putting them in chains of darkness to be held for judgment; 5 if he did not spare the ancient world when he brought the flood on its ungodly people, but protected Noah, a preacher of righteousness, and seven others; 6 if he condemned the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah by burning them to ashes, and made them an example of what is going to happen to the ungodly; 7 and if he rescued Lot, a righteous man, who was distressed by the depraved conduct of the lawless 8 (for that righteous man, living among them day after day, was tormented in his righteous soul by the lawless deeds he saw and heard)— 9 if this is so, then the Lord knows how to rescue the godly from trials and to hold the unrighteous for punishment on the day of judgment.
10 This is especially true of those who follow the corrupt desire of the flesh and despise authority.
Bold and arrogant, they are not afraid to heap abuse on celestial beings; 11 yet even angels, although they are stronger and more powerful, do not heap abuse on such beings when bringing judgment on them from the Lord. 12 But these people blaspheme in matters they do not understand. They are like unreasoning animals, creatures of instinct, born only to be caught and destroyed, and like animals they too will perish.
Sex is the flesh, and authority is the Church. I have spoken many words, but it is only because I care for your soul. Do not give up and live for the flesh. Ask God for help, and He will deliver you. I cannot convert you, only the grace of God can do that. I pray to the Virgin Mary and all the angles and saints to melt your heart, and you turn from death. God bless you