Hello! Faith faltering

Hope3 · Jun 20, 2021

Hello! This is my second post. First in the introduction. My first post had to do about my daughter.

About 11 years ago I had a long talk with God. I wanted him to be number one. I wanted to have stronger faith. Right after this, I found out my husband was cheating on me. I prayed for God to make my marriage work....well, he wanted to be with the other woman, so I we got a divorced. I felt like I came out stronger in my faith.

Today, because of how he has not been there much for my kids other than financially, I am happy that I am where I’m at. I’m still single, but happy.

I went through a two year period in my young 20’s when I lost faith. I continued to pray occasionally that God would help me with my faith, and I had others praying for me. My faith was stonger than ever after that.

A few days ago, I had another long talk with God. I felt like my faith was wavering. I ask him to help me with my faith. I did tell him that I could not take any of my kids dying to help me with my faith. I would go off on the deep in. Well, that was my conversation.

Well, yesterday I found out my daughter considers herself to be bisexual and somedays she wants to be a guy and some days she wants to be a girl. She is only 14 and our rule has always been that she couldn’t date until she graduated from high school.

So, I am in a tailspin.

Freth · Jun 20, 2021

Hope3 said:
Hello! This is my second post. First in the introduction. My first post had to do about my daughter.

About 11 years ago I had a long talk with God. I wanted him to be number one. I wanted to have stronger faith. Right after this, I found out my husband was cheating on me. I prayed for God to make my marriage work....well, he wanted to be with the other woman, so I we got a divorced. I felt like I came out stronger in my faith.

Today, because of how he has not been there much for my kids other than financially, I am happy that I am where I’m at. I’m still single, but happy.

I went through a two year period in my young 20’s when I lost faith. I continued to pray occasionally that God would help me with my faith, and I had others praying for me. My faith was stonger than ever after that.

A few days ago, I had another long talk with God. I felt like my faith was wavering. I ask him to help me with my faith. I did tell him that I could not take any of my kids dying to help me with my faith. I would go off on the deep in. Well, that was my conversation.

Well, yesterday I found out my daughter considers herself to be bisexual and somedays she wants to be a guy and some days she wants to be a girl. She is only 14 and our rule has always been that she couldn’t date until she graduated from high school.

So, I am in a tailspin.

Welcome to CF!

I also went through a period of lost faith. Mine started at age sixteen and didn't recover until age forty six. I've been there and I know what it feels like.

The good news is there is hope. Jesus is always there, waiting to hear from us in prayer. Wanting to help us through our trials, give us peace and help us overcome. I have no doubt that if you stay the course He will help you.

I don't have kids, so I can't give seasoned parental advice on how to deal with her situation, but I do know from my own experiences that teenagers have to learn from their mistakes. It doesn't mean we can't love them and steer them in the right direction, but they have a tendency to do what they think they want or feel is right for them at the time (as I did).

You are not alone. We are here and will listen.

God bless!

Hope3 · Jun 20, 2021

Freth said:
Welcome to CF!

I also went through a period of lost faith. Mine started at age sixteen and didn't recover until age forty six. I've been there and I know what it feels like.

The good news is there is hope. Jesus is always there, waiting to hear fromus in prayer. Wanting to help us through our trials, give us peace and help us overcome. I have no doubt that if you stay the course He will help you.

I don't have kids, so I can't give advice on how to deal with her situation, but I do know from my own experiences that teenagers have to learn from their mistakes. It doesn't mean we can't love them and steer them in the right direction, but they have a tendency to do what they think they want or feel is right for them at the time (as I did).

You are not alone. We are here and will listen.

God bless!

Thank you so much. That has been my feeling. Right now, I feel the best I can do for her is pray and strengthen my faith.

Freth · Jun 20, 2021

Hope3 said:
Thank you so much. That has been my feeling. Right now, I feel the best I can do for her is pray and strengthen my faith.

All is not lost. I had a brother who, from the time he graduated to well into his 30's, was a heroin addict. He spent years taking advantage of family, lying and stealing from his brothers and his mother.

We tried all we could to save him from his addiction, but it had to be his choice. Thankfully, the story ended on a happy note. My brother reached a point where he decided he didn't want to do it any more and he also met a woman who showed him love and compassion and helped him through his addiction. It was his choice that had to be made and he had to be at a time when he was willing to move on from it.

It took some convincing to get my older brother to accept his little brother back into the family. He wasn't having it, he had disowned him.

I prayed and miracles happened. My brother is clean and has a family of his own. My other brother's heart finally softened and accepted him again.

Sometimes it just takes time, continued prayer and a lot of patience for things to turn around on God's timeline and not our own.

I will pray for you.

sandman · Jun 20, 2021

Hope3 said:
Hello! This is my second post. First in the introduction. My first post had to do about my daughter.

About 11 years ago I had a long talk with God. I wanted him to be number one. I wanted to have stronger faith. Right after this, I found out my husband was cheating on me. I prayed for God to make my marriage work....well, he wanted to be with the other woman, so I we got a divorced. I felt like I came out stronger in my faith.

Today, because of how he has not been there much for my kids other than financially, I am happy that I am where I’m at. I’m still single, but happy.

I went through a two year period in my young 20’s when I lost faith. I continued to pray occasionally that God would help me with my faith, and I had others praying for me. My faith was stonger than ever after that.

A few days ago, I had another long talk with God. I felt like my faith was wavering. I ask him to help me with my faith. I did tell him that I could not take any of my kids dying to help me with my faith. I would go off on the deep in. Well, that was my conversation.

Well, yesterday I found out my daughter considers herself to be bisexual and somedays she wants to be a guy and some days she wants to be a girl. She is only 14 and our rule has always been that she couldn’t date until she graduated from high school.

So, I am in a tailspin.

Several years ago…. I would have been more concerned, but in today’s woke culture choosing something like this is in vogue…

Not to say she isn’t going through stuff, but she is at the age where it is cool to be different. There is an unbelievable amount of rebellion and unconformity to society within the school system and with peers.

I understand your concerns with my daughter (around 14) it was goth …black hair, black cloths, painted her room black (both girls were allowed to pick their own color) but it was a struggle for me to keep my mouth shut and just love her for who she is and not look at the outward appearance. Fortunately, I had set some perimeters for dating (17) only ear piercing, and no tats until they were 50, or out of the house.

My concern is your comment about tailspin….You can’t allow yourself to even think that way. It makes it sound like you are out of control, and you are not ….this will pass, I promise you ….but you and God always make a majority…. You are victorious in every situation.

Love your daughter for the person she is not who she is pretending to be …don’t lecture, don’t preach, just see her in your minds eye for the great woman of God she is going to be…

Hope3 · Jun 20, 2021

sandman said:
Several years ago…. I would have been more concerned, but in today’s woke culture choosing something like this is in vogue…

Not to say she isn’t going through stuff, but she is at the age where it is cool to be different. There is an unbelievable amount of rebellion and unconformity to society within the school system and with peers.

I understand your concerns with my daughter (around 14) it was goth …black hair, black cloths, painted her room black (both girls were allowed to pick their own color) but it was a struggle for me to keep my mouth shut and just love her for who she is and not look at the outward appearance. Fortunately, I had set some perimeters for dating (17) only ear piercing, and no tats until they were 50, or out of the house.

My concern is your comment about tailspin….You can’t allow yourself to even think that way. It makes it sound like you are out of control, and you are not ….this will pass, I promise you ….but you and God always make a majority…. You are victorious in every situation.

Love your daughter for the person she is not who she is pretending to be …don’t lecture, don’t preach, just see her in your minds eye for the great woman of God she is going to be…

Thank you! She is in theater and that culture embraces this lifestyle somewhat even more. To be honest, I do feel a little out of control. Thats why I’m here seeking answers and asking for prayer. Just the support I’ve received on this post and the first post has given me great comfort and reminder of the importance of prayer. I will be okay. As a single mom, I have to be in control. I know the enemy would have be not in control. But thank you. You just reminded me to remember my Life Bible Quote. I really needed this. Thank you so much.

Tigger45 · Jun 20, 2021

Welcome to CF & God’s blessings :pray:

kingsdaughter85 · Jun 21, 2021

Welcome and God bless you

Joined2krist · Jun 21, 2021

Welcome to CF, be patient in prayer. God will come through in his time

Deade · Jun 21, 2021

Hello Hope3, welcome to CF
I hope you'll enjoy your stay here.

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