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Yesterday I replied to a thread started by a member whose wife has Alzheimer's disease. My heart aches for his situation, Alzheimer's disease and dementia both seem to be in my family so I have watched it take family members one after another. My mother is currently in a nursing home with dementia as well. I was flying out to visit my mother 4 to 7 times a year for a few years, then COVID put a rapid stop to trips. Mom is in NJ, so you can imagine COVID + NJ + Nursing Home + stupid governor decisions = Mom caught COVID when they released COVID patients in the nursing homes. She was given 5-10% chance to survive, but she did! She had her 94th birthday this month! Anyway, I am rambling in an area not intended for the post.... 
Yesterday I called the nursing home to talk to mom (I do this 1 - 2 times a day [and I have to toss this out, why the heck do my 2 sisters NOT find time to talk to her more than once every 1-2 weeks???!]) and for the first time in a year + I was greeted by someone close to my mother not the person with dementia, the person who can be mean and hurtful or the person who slurs and can hardly speak. I was so grateful for that. I needed to talk to "my mother" and there she was! WOW. I am about to let 2 of my cats go (Wednesday and Thursday) after 17 and 18 year, and it is killing me. I have gone through the gambit of begging, pleading, bargaining, trying to guilt and threatening God over this and now have to accept it. No, God was not going to be a genie and cure them or grant my wishes on the situation, but in the end He did 2 things I am grateful for. He allowed me to talk to and cry to my MOTHER yesterday and allowed her to understand and console me AND he gave my 2 cats a better evening with me and I pray the same today.
So why the odd subject on this message? It would be wrong to post this in the thread the gentleman started about his wife with Alzheimer's disease. But his thread did prompt my post here, so here I am. To the man from the other thread, if by chance you read this post, know I am still praying for your wife and you.
Sometimes life gives you a load of lemons and with them all we can do is accept them and eat/drink them. I think the idea of "make lemonade" is silly. Bad situations cannot be made good generally, but you can learn to accept, live with and learn from most situations He grants us that. So thank you God for a talk with my MOTHER last night when I really needed it and for a decent night with Nova and Andromeda. I pray you grant me good days/nights for their remaining 1 and 2 day and that you help me to overcome this grief quickly and see the love and life I had with them, not the painful end.
Thanks for allowing me to ramble and reading the ramblings.
David
Yesterday I called the nursing home to talk to mom (I do this 1 - 2 times a day [and I have to toss this out, why the heck do my 2 sisters NOT find time to talk to her more than once every 1-2 weeks???!]) and for the first time in a year + I was greeted by someone close to my mother not the person with dementia, the person who can be mean and hurtful or the person who slurs and can hardly speak. I was so grateful for that. I needed to talk to "my mother" and there she was! WOW. I am about to let 2 of my cats go (Wednesday and Thursday) after 17 and 18 year, and it is killing me. I have gone through the gambit of begging, pleading, bargaining, trying to guilt and threatening God over this and now have to accept it. No, God was not going to be a genie and cure them or grant my wishes on the situation, but in the end He did 2 things I am grateful for. He allowed me to talk to and cry to my MOTHER yesterday and allowed her to understand and console me AND he gave my 2 cats a better evening with me and I pray the same today.
So why the odd subject on this message? It would be wrong to post this in the thread the gentleman started about his wife with Alzheimer's disease. But his thread did prompt my post here, so here I am.
To the man from the other thread, if by chance you read this post, know I am still praying for your wife and you.Sometimes life gives you a load of lemons and with them all we can do is accept them and eat/drink them. I think the idea of "make lemonade" is silly. Bad situations cannot be made good generally, but you can learn to accept, live with and learn from most situations He grants us that. So thank you God for a talk with my MOTHER last night when I really needed it and for a decent night with Nova and Andromeda. I pray you grant me good days/nights for their remaining 1 and 2 day and that you help me to overcome this grief quickly and see the love and life I had with them, not the painful end.
Thanks for allowing me to ramble and reading the ramblings.
David
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