Divorce

Is this inspired by the lockdown? I am grateful that I have a supportive husband and we are enjoying time with our children. Unfortunately there are too many people I know that are not in my position. What biblical advice would you suggest for someone in a violent relationship? My close friend is in this position and is confused as there has been no adultery.

Still getting the hang of this.

Thank you quietbloke. Divorce is a tricky subject. I came across Malachi 2:16 recently that suggests that a man should not hate his wife because that would be doing violence to one he should protect. Admittedly it says hate and divorce, but unfortunately some people want to keep someone in an abusive situation because it gives them power. I think that the best I can do is pray for them both and try and offer support, although at a distance right now.

I am single and have never been married, so I cannot imagine what it would be like for a couple contemplating divorce and the pain of going through with it.

The Bible does speak against divorce in quite strong terms, but for those personally affected by it, their choices are never that simple. In an ideal world, a couple would work hard to resolve their relationship issues, but we know all too well that life is not always that easy. Some have suffered infidelity, psychological and physical abuse, or even sexual and financial exploitation.

Fundamentally, the Bible teaches us to love God and love our neighbour. That sums up the law and the prophets. But no matter how much we love a person, it is difficult to re-establish trust once it has been seriously breached. Sometimes the best way we can show a person that we love them is knowing when we have to let them go, to give them the freedom to rediscover their lives and make their own choices. It is a lot more complicated when there are children involved and decisions have to be made that take into account their best interests.