when do you think is the right time to say I love you?

sunshine100 said:

So my nephew has been seeing this one girl that he met online for a few months now,she has a baby,now they tell each other they love them and they have not been together for a long time,when do you think is the right time to say I love you?Im just concerned about my nephew and just don't want to see him get hurt.

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About 6 months into a committed relationship.

Loving someone is not the same as being in love with someone.

sunshine100 said:

So my nephew has been seeing this one girl that he met online for a few months now,she has a baby,now they tell each other they love them and they have not been together for a long time,when do you think is the right time to say I love you?Im just concerned about my nephew and just don't want to see him get hurt.

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In general maybe 3-6 months depending on if the couple are friends first.

But for this particular situation, I wouldn't worry about " I love you". It's a lip-service.

Do his actions speak of one that actually cares for the girl, starting to formulate some sort of plans towards marriage and commitment as in organizing meetups, making the family aware, etc, or one who is infatuated by the convenience of his situation? If its the latter then it will probably have to be a situation where either it would be A. making ACTUALLY AND REASONABLE steps towards marriage or B. an eventual harsh heartbreak. This limbo "I love you", when it comes to long distance/online stuff doesnt last long.

I would have a talk with him to make sure he knows the dangers in case he gets deep in infatuation. Reality tends to pop that bubble eventually, but at least there would be less damage along the way.

sunshine100 said:

So my nephew has been seeing this one girl that he met online for a few months now,she has a baby,now they tell each other they love them and they have not been together for a long time,when do you think is the right time to say I love you?Im just concerned about my nephew and just don't want to see him get hurt.

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I guess it'll be different for everybody. I knew a guy who said ILY to a girl on their third date. He proposed somewhere in their second month together. They got married less than a year after their first date (I should know because I was there for both occasions). That was over ten years ago and to all outward appearances, they couldn't be happier these days.

I told it to now-fiancee somewhere around the three month mark. She said she'd been hoping to hear it for weeks by then.

Kids do stupid things. Including get their hearts broken. It's not much fun but it's a part of life. I'm sure your nephew will be fine.

thecolorsblend said:

I guess it'll be different for everybody.

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Yes. This.

sunshine100 said:

So my nephew has been seeing this one girl that he met online for a few months now,she has a baby,now they tell each other they love them and they have not been together for a long time,when do you think is the right time to say I love you?Im just concerned about my nephew and just don't want to see him get hurt.

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Not before the partner is ready to hear it. I've seen too many relationships which had a chance to fly be grounded by premature love announcements. Cold feet can be cured by a warm heart but the warm heart needs to be patient.

Too many games with this.

When you want to do selfless things for them, because seeing them happy makes you happy, and that's all the reason you need, tell them you love them. For a simple reason: because it's true.