children's happiness

Daniel Newhouse · Jun 21, 2018

Should we care about our children's happiness?

Dave-W · Jun 21, 2018

Absolutely. But it should not be the Main or Primary concern. Do not let "happiness" override concerns of health or overall well being.

mama2one · Jul 19, 2018

I love to see our child smiling and laughing!

Tonight we went to a local park and she had fun playing with other kids.
This wk, husband and child went bike riding on a trail and had fun.

You're a child for such a short time; want our kid to enjoy childhood.

Daniel Newhouse · Jul 20, 2018

Is it healthy for children to feed table scraps to a cat?

Rescued One · Mar 17, 2019

I have a question: do most men like to roughhouse with their kids? Online articles say it's very good for them for many reasons. My father and two stepfathers never did it. So when my husband did it, and one of the kids inevitably got hurt, I was always saying "Stop before someone gets hurt!" My oldest likes to keep telling people that it's good for kids. I didn't know that kids whose fathers don't do it are being deprived. My one daughter is married to a man who is very serious. Their children don't like roughhousing. And they're usually quiet. Their son wouldn't go to church with us anymore because a certain man thought he was too shy and figured if he'd tickle my grandson, my grandson would warm up to him. Never happened. Well, what do you people think?

Rescued One · Mar 17, 2019

Daniel Newhouse said:
Is it healthy for children to feed table scraps to a cat?

Good question. I watched a show where a woman who had taken care of her cat while pregnant got a dangerous parasite that was passed on to the fetus. The baby had developmental and vision problems and the doctors didn't find the cause until he was over a year old. The parasite can't be destroyed. Even though the mother has it, it's not as harmful to adults as it is to fetuses. The boy will be legally blind for the rest of his life.
Toxoplasmosis - Symptoms and causes

Should cats eat table scraps? I have no idea. I'm allergic to cats.

Rescued One · Mar 17, 2019

Daniel Newhouse said:
Should we care about our children's happiness?

YES! Absolutely.

Dave-W · Mar 18, 2019

Daniel Newhouse said:
Is it healthy for children to feed table scraps to a cat?

LOL!!!

Healthy for the kids to want to feed the cat? Absolutely.
Healthy for the cat? Probably not.

ms.smith · Apr 2, 2019

It is important, but not a main or primary concern. Much to my 6 year old's dismay. He is always saying "I'm not happy mommy!" when he doesn't get his way. I remind him my job is not to make him happy, my job is to raise him good and healthy and strong, that being happy is a choice he gets to make.

He uses the same tactic on grandma and grandma feels it's her job to fix it if he isn't happy, which is the difference between a parent and a grandparent. I'm responsible for how he is raised, not to please the whims of a small child.

Dave-W · Apr 3, 2019

There is a lot more to a child being happy than indulging whims. It is about feeling loved and safe. No amount of “choosing” on the part of the child will change that. If the child is always afraid of being beaten or sexually abused or not believed, there is no way they can just choose to be happy.

ms.smith · Apr 3, 2019

Dave-W said:
There is a lot more to a child being happy than indulging whims. It is about feeling loved and safe. No amount of “choosing” on the part of the child will change that. If the child is always afraid of being beaten or sexually abused or not believed, there is no way they can just choose to be happy.

This is true. I mean in the context of him whining he is not happy because he didn't get something he wanted. That is a choice he is making. I'm trying to encourage him to be in control of his emotions.

But you are correct there is much more than that. I was referring to his emotional manipulation tactics of complaining that I'm doing things that make him not happy, or not doing something that will make him immediately happy.

Like, "If you don't take me to *insert fun child thing here*, I won't be happy mommy! you have to take me or I won't be happy!" That is what I was talking about.

Dave-W · Apr 3, 2019

ms.smith said:
This is true. I mean in the context of him whining he is not happy because he didn't get something he wanted. That is a choice he is making. I'm trying to encourage him to be in control of his emotions.

But you are correct there is much more than that. I was referring to his emotional manipulation tactics of complaining that I'm doing things that make him not happy, or not doing something that will make him immediately happy.

Like, "If you don't take me to *insert fun child thing here*, I won't be happy mommy! you have to take me or I won't be happy!" That is what I was talking about.

YEs I understand that.

Trying to find a good and godly balance is challenging.

mama2one · Apr 3, 2019

have attended various parenting presentations

one that was at a church:
one speaker said she didn't ask her child if he had fun, instead she asked if the other kids had fun
she wanted her child to be aware of others & feel some responsibility towards them

the other speaker was very emphatic about getting older children/teens into volunteering

don't know how I feel about speaker #1 as don't know if kids should have responsibility for other kid's happiness
different to teach kindness towards others/getting along

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