I almost feel like crying now when reading your post. I could not help you with the situation you are in, but I guess I could help you in spirit.
Luke 6:20: ... Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God.
Luke 6:24: "But woe to you who are rich, for you have received your consolation.
I am never rich, neither is my church. In the past in China, many of us are poor and some are illiterate. Also, churches have had a really difficult time, since the government oppresses the truth (though it is getting much better these days). The government confiscated properties and accused some of us for illegal gathering. Our church had spent all our money to help brothers and sisters and other people who are in dire needs. We were so poor that we can't even afford a place to gather. We have to rent a really small place and pray for the supplies from God.
But we are, on the other hand, so rich, that we are able to help countless people in need. I would share a personal experience of a brother. He had studied in UK with a student visa (he met God there and quit his illegal job). He had very little income for two years, since he was not allowed work for too many hours a week and his family cannot support him. But he had so much that he was able to give half of his yearly tuition fee to another brother in need, yet he sometimes didn't know what he was going to eat on the next day. God supplied him with all he needs. He never skipped a meal.
2 Corinthians 6:9-10
as unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and behold, we live; as punished, and yet not killed; as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, yet possessing everything.
Never look forward to be rich. Rather, look forward to be poor. I say this literally, because it is what we believe, that God supplies us if we give up our money and our desire for money. I do not mean that a person should not get a job or should not work hard, nor I am saying it is wrong to have a lot of money. Rather, do not seek on your own to earn more money. God will give you and guide you to find ways to satisfy your needs, if you seek first His kingdom but not your own needs.
Matthew 6:31-33
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
And do not compare with your fellow brothers and sisters. Being poor is blessed by God, so that you may experience His love and know how to wait upon God. I guess I am never being in extreme poverty, but I hope that you eyes could be opened, that you may see the spiritual gain to be poor and to rely on God. Wait God to help you to endure the trial He has put you into.