First of all, I don’t know why you keep calling it a “complex” society. I see nothing complex about a people representing the law, (police) using physical force as a last resort to prevent people from breaking the rules/law
I call it complex because of several reasons.
The most important reason for purposes of the topic is:
Due to the large amount of people interacting with each other, certain processes have to be dealt with differently than it would be required for a one-on-one relationship. Which, among other things, lead to written laws and to the division of the aspects of relations into function-carriers: People who (unlike a parent towards a child) carry isolated functions. A policeman e.g. (with regards to his duties that you appealed to) is a policeman is a policeman is a policeman, and nothing else.
Furthermore, there are reasons why large society carefully write down laws for each and every occasion (and families don´t), and value the laws pretty high: Due to the huge amount of people involved, due to the amount of reasons for possible conflicts, due to the fact that these regulations are not only necessary for dealing with individual conflicts but with conflicts of groups, or of conflicts between the society as a whole and the individual, due to the fact that there often is little personal contact between the parties involved (see "function-carriers") it is impossible to rely on what people committed to each other typically do: Talk to each other, try various approaches and so forth. Society as a whole depends on strict regulations. A personal relationship doesn´t.
If the alternative to doing something as a last resort is to do nothing, something usually works better than nothing at all
I´m not sure whom you have seen here advocating "doing nothing". Certainly can´t have been me.
Okay. I am speaking only about the parent-child relationship.
Ok.
First of all; I am not really talking about modeling the parent-child relationship after American society because let’s face it; American society isn’t the only structure in place that incorporates physical force as a last resort of enforcing the law; many other societies that existed before and will exist after our particular society has incorporated this idea as well.
Second of all; American society has a lot of stuff in place; lawyers, Miranda rights, trial by jury of peers, etc. that I would not recommend for the child-parent relationship; so I am not suggesting this child parent relationship be an exact modeled of this huge complex society that you speak of, I’m just saying physical force of the house hold rules as a last resort might be in order sometimes.
Well, I didn´t say anything about America (I´m not American myself, btw.).
You compared the job of a parent to the carrier of a particular function in a larger society (policeman), and I am saying that unlike policemen parents aren´t carriers of one particular function towards their kids - they are their parents. Which means they are pretty much everything - an "everything" that society for obvious reasons (its complexity) divided into different functions that different persons have to carry out more or less anonymously and regardless of their personal relationships.
Third; the reason I believe it is a good idea is because I know of plenty of examples where I’ve seen it work.
Well, anecdotal evidence is not a particularly strong argument but let´s forget that for a moment. What do you mean when saying "it works"? What are the purposes, the criteria, the requirements and the results that prompt you to conclude "this works" (I am asking because we simply may not agree in our ideas about that).
I don’t think it is a coincidence that the bad behavior of children today is far worse than in yesteryear when corporal punishment was common. You can look at what kids are doing in schools today compared to yesterday, the lack of respect for their teachers and authority at school today compared to yesterday, I believe among other things; a lack of parental discipline is the result of this behavior.
So when was "yesterday/yesteryear" for purposes of this comparison? 10 years ago, 20 years ago, 50 years ago, 2000 years ago? Or is it but the typical complaint about the rottenness of the next generation that is common to all generations since thousands of years?
I went to school 40-50 years ago, and I assure you that my teachers weren´t pleased with my behaviour (nor with the behaviour of my generation as a whole).
I have been working with kids and juveniles for more than thirty years, and I haven´t observed a significant decline.
So lets not engage in old men´s unspecific rants in replacement of actual arguments.
On another note: Even if we assume for the sake of the argument that along with decreasing application of corporal punishment a decline in the behaviour of the youngs could be evidenced - how (besides your "beliefs") do you get from correlation to causation?
Amongst other things; the law of the household.
Yes, "amongst other things"! See above. A parent is not the carrier of an isolated function.
Secondly, there are reasons why "the law" isn´t as big a deal in a family as it is in a society.
Thirdly, another difference between the relationships "society (or its function-carrier like a policeman) - citizens" and "parents - children" is: Policemen deal with adults, i.e. with people who are expected to have learned about the laws etc. Whereas parents deal with children who have yet to learn about these things. I find the difference between raising someone into a system and enforcing law on someone who is expected to have been raised into it quite significant. There is no reason to assume that both pursuits suggest or require the same methods.
If what you mean by “criminal behavior” you mean to break the rules of the house?
No. By "criminal behaviour" I meant "criminal behaviour".
I was sorta saying that as a joke.
Ok, my bad. Blame it on my lack of humour.
I assume you recognize the difference between beating a small child, and a tap on the bottom to get his attention; if you don’t than we may not be understanding each other
Well, the topic is "corporal
punishment". I recognize the difference between "a little tap to get someone´s attention" and "corporal
punishment".
So when you actually had been talking about "small taps to get their attention" all the time, I am understanding the parallel between policemen (which you brought up as the
enforcer of laws) and parents even less now than I did previously.
And I recognize that if all you meant to defend were "small taps to get their attention" you were off-topic all the time.
But to be honest, I am more inclined that initially you were talking about corporal punishment, and now you are peddling back by bringing up "small taps to get their attention".