I'm getting married in a few weeks and I am reallllllllly excited!!
I'm in the army, and around alot of tough guys most of the time. I'm the only girl that works in my shop. Also, as you may/may not know.. the divorce rate in the military is extremely high.
But I was talking to the guys about my upcoming marriage, how excited I was, how it's going to be based on faith and communication, and how I'm marrying my best friend, etc..
Two of the guys started telling me that I was being unrealistic. That I'm expecting this fairy tale marriage and how I'm just going to be disappointed.
I disagree with them though. I know how hard it's going to be, especially with us being in the military but I love him so much. I know that I'm going to have to wake up daily, and know that I have to fight to have a good marriage, practice patience, love, and commitment to have the marriage that God desires for us.
So my question is.. is it really unrealistic to be excited about a lifetime with someone, in today's society? Are we supposed to be "realistic" and know that it could end in divorce, going into it? Doesn't that make it easier for us to chose divorce as an option? It just makes me sad how marriages seem nowadays. I have heard the term "first marriage is a practice marriage" quite a bit in the last few days.. It's disappointing. I don't believe in divorce, and neither does Garry. We have already talked about it.. and we're going to pray our way through this marriage.
Matthew 19:6
"So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not men seperate."
So I would just like to see what people think. I believe that I'm going into this with the right mindset, but I know that are others here who are actually married and will have a better idea of what it's going to be like.
I'm in the army, and around alot of tough guys most of the time. I'm the only girl that works in my shop. Also, as you may/may not know.. the divorce rate in the military is extremely high.
But I was talking to the guys about my upcoming marriage, how excited I was, how it's going to be based on faith and communication, and how I'm marrying my best friend, etc..
Two of the guys started telling me that I was being unrealistic. That I'm expecting this fairy tale marriage and how I'm just going to be disappointed.
I disagree with them though. I know how hard it's going to be, especially with us being in the military but I love him so much. I know that I'm going to have to wake up daily, and know that I have to fight to have a good marriage, practice patience, love, and commitment to have the marriage that God desires for us.
So my question is.. is it really unrealistic to be excited about a lifetime with someone, in today's society? Are we supposed to be "realistic" and know that it could end in divorce, going into it? Doesn't that make it easier for us to chose divorce as an option? It just makes me sad how marriages seem nowadays. I have heard the term "first marriage is a practice marriage" quite a bit in the last few days.. It's disappointing. I don't believe in divorce, and neither does Garry. We have already talked about it.. and we're going to pray our way through this marriage.
Matthew 19:6
"So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not men seperate."
So I would just like to see what people think. I believe that I'm going into this with the right mindset, but I know that are others here who are actually married and will have a better idea of what it's going to be like.