Catherineanne
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- Sep 1, 2004
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He said that we married too soon, we didn't know each other that well. We have nothing in common. We can't get past small things.
My husbands reasons are not reasons for terminating a marriage at all.
If he is right; that you married too soon, did not know one another very well, and have nothing in common, then those are pretty reasonable grounds for divorce.
However, he is not right. You do have something in common; your children. You both need to put aside what you want, and think about them. You put aside your wish to see your husband saved (for now), and he put aside his wish for more freedom.
You have both chosen to have two children very close together, and you both have an obligation to put them first. If he can't do this for you, then he must do it for the children.
There is plenty of time for you to get to know one another; that can be sorted out. And you may have married too soon, but nonetheless you are married; there is nothing to be done about that one.
I think the best thing you can do is focus on the children and what they need. As long as his reasons are to do with your relationship, then that relationship can be sorted out. If it gets to the point that he has found another woman, then it will be far harder. And it may be worth discussing future children as well, and factor in some time to yourselves. It is not easy to deal with young children, and he may be feeling trapped.
Therefore, I suggest you move back home, with your son, and talk this through, for as long as it takes. Ask your husband what it would take for him to give the marriage another chance, and meet him as far towards that as you can. If he believes in God, then that is superb. Ask him about his God, and don't assume that yours is right and his is wrong. It may well be the other way round, so listen to what he has to say.
It may in the end prove to be impossible to retrieve this situation, but at least you will have tried.
God be with you.
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