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Her- Hatboro, PA, 24
Me- Greensboro, NC, 19
other guy- WV, 22

Well this week hasnt been the best ever (pretty bad if u ask me)....Saturday/ Sunday I found out my girlfriend (ex now) didnt wanna date anymore. That put me in a bad, crappy mood. Well Monday roles around and She wouldnt tell me yes or no on a question if she has been cheating on me...said it didnt matter. Got a gut feeling she was and that just made it yes in my head when she said that. Well i found out yes it was true and i have talked to the guy online on a jeep website I post on. I didnt like the guy at all and he stole my gf when we were having some problems.


I was more than good to her....i know some of yall arent going to like the sound of this but i have started thinking smarter. I Met her online, chated, then started calling one another. She came down a lil over a month ago for the 1st time....it was everything it could be and more. We had been dating a month or so at this time. Well it was going good and i got a job right as she came down...spent the weekend together. I went to work that following week and i was cool then but then the next week i started getting tired and frustrated with things and yell at her and hang up on the way home. She then started talking to that guy...who knows what about but thats ok. well it was ok i didnt know the problem i just wasnt really thinking...we started talking on hte phone for probably im goin gto say 13-17 hrs on the phone a day then the last 2 weeks or so probably about hr on the phone at the last week.

I know i made mistakes but it seems to me she didnt wanan work them out and just wanted to be happy at any cost it took. It caused me to have get really down and want to do the bad thing i dont wanna say. I got a ucler or something from all the stress of it. Was getting made fun of b/c i was crying and stuff like that from ppl that would talk to me (on the internet). She has seen totally turned her back on me and just acted like a major immature brat. I asked her if we could talk on the phone to just put a end to everything. but she goes no i dont have a need to talk to u, dont wanna talk to u, nothing will be gained from it. She said she loved me all the time but then she told that guy she didnt ever say that and from the looks of it she didnt....

Im just really lost on life....im 19 not in college but plan to go back. Im having a tough time dealing with all this right now....i wasnt happy before i met her, just alot of things have happened in 2 months and im back to square one....Dave Kerwin has listened and helped me and i prayed the other night for the 1st time in yrs i mean like since i was a kid.

My friend was goign thru problems with his gf too and he didnt wanna live but i called him, talked to him and he is doing ok...still doesnt like whats going on but i just talk to him daily on the phone and internet about life and how it will be ok.

Well thats all i got to say right now...that was a lot for someone to read but thanks for posting

Will
 

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phew.....I dunno if I can give you any advice on the relationship stuff...........
well it's great that you just prayed...thats definately a good thing to do :)

I've been Christian since.........I can think I guess....my life wasn't going so well till about a half year ago......
God made me realize some stuff and drew (sp?) me a lot closer to him.......
wow long story I'm pretty confused about stuff aswell but I've totally been carried thru everything.............wow
it's amazing no matter how down things can go I'll always be picked up and gotten out and..........
f .........mhh what exactly do you mean by 'lost' ??
just tell God everything that comes to your mind......just talking to him and asking him to help you out will definately help....cause he's really answering your prayers :)
allright..hoping this helpes..Be Blessed !!
 
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Will, thanks for sharing all that bro. I have had some rough spots in life too. Some of the situation you are in now is by your own choosing. I am not trying to hark on you, but just remember that God has given us the awesome opportunity to love him back the way the he first loved us. This life here on Earth can be hard, confusing, and heartbreaking. But we gotta stand up, turn around, and head down the narrow road. The road of Jesus that leads to eternal life. One day bro we will be with the Father in heaven. On that day there will be no more tears, no more pain. You will see Jesus face to face. I patiently await the day that God says I am done here. It may be two days, it may be 70 years, I don't know. In the mean time, I trust that God has made me for a purpose, and I will serve Jesus as my King. He will use you if you allow him to. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Stay strong and trust the Lord. Peace.
 
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Psalms 141:8 _But mine eyes are unto thee, O GOD the Lord: in thee is my trust; leave not my soul destitute.

Pray Pray Pray.

Live the day to the fullest to give glory to God....not anyone else!

Miss you all.
I have been busy. Sorry your girlfriend cheated on you..or atleast you think she did.

What do you think God's will is for you????
GEL
 
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From the likes of this chik...sounds like she isn't a good one bro.  If you aren't saved you need to get God in your life NOW!  And well if you are...just pray to the Father and let God direct your steps man.  He has a plan for your life whether you believe it or not...the job he specifically wants you to have...the car he wants you to drive...and even the chick that he wants you to be w/.  Man personally for me I just pray and let God guide me through things you know?  Cause he will never lead you wrong!  Maybe this chick wasn't for you...and this was God's way of letting you know that.

Man I pray to God before I go on dates...even before I ask the chik out...asking God if it's in his will that I go on a date w/ this chik...if it's not in his will man...he'll let you know...as he has done a couple times to me.

But just let God direct your every steps...you're sure not to make a mistake or mess up then you know?  Just pray to God and ask him to lead and to guide your every footstep and action you take...asking him always if it's in his will to be done...let God take the reins ahold on your life...and just go along for the ride man!...it'll save you a lot of heart-breaks in the longrun.

But for real though...if you don't know God as your persoanl Savior...man you are missing out!...I pray for you!

Peace Out! :cool:
 
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hey ppl (dont really know what to say) but i have had a couple friends that really are into GOD......they are pushy at all but if i have something to ask they are right there and help me out...give me some advice where to start.

Life is hard but GOD can show u some of the coolest things u will ever see in life....i have figured out that without him u really dont have a sense of direction.

this is really a random thought post but i dont know where to post this at.....i just think listen to Be Like That by 3 doors down and it reminds me of what i missed out in life. I think thats the reason i am with alot of things and dont know what to ever do sometimes.

I never went to a party (just to hang out) in high school till my sr yr and it wasnt much (it was 45 mins away at a friends that went to a totally different school), never went to the prom, did things i kind of wish i would have stepback and thought before i did them.

I really wanna talk to the friends but i think i would talk to them for so long it would just take forever...i have so many things to ask them about it and how it does for them......i know they get down but they always seem to be in the best mood all the time...and i wish i was like that i have some problems that i have alot of trouble dealing with.

If anyone wants to chat....NCxj17 on aol/aim is my name.....

Will
 
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God is there 24 hours a day, He is always listening. Live each day for Him. You shouldn't hesitate to get in touch with your friends if they're good Christians, I bet they would be thrilled to spend whatever time is needed to help you learn more about Christ.

Read your Bible, and pray for understanding, as much as you can. it's the best way to draw closer to the Lord.
 
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Well one of them lives about 3 hrs away right now...the other in MI (dave kerwin), and thats all i really know thats big into all this.....i just seem to be in this depression stage that i cant get out of been there for yrs it seems....it runs in my family ( i have everything to be happy about) but there is just things i want that i cant have at all right now
 
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We shouldn't worry about the things we want, there's realy only one thing we should want and that is to have God in our life. Once we place God first in our life everything else just seems to fall into place. sure there will still be heartache and sorrows occasionaly, but it's Gods Love that sees us through those times, He can bring us all the peace, and comfort we need, and no one else can.
 
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yeah.......you know it's not that bad you didn't go to these parties and all.......
your past is behind you when you're forgiven :) life is about more than the things we want cause God's plan is like 100 times better than it all...............
He knows all of our needs and will give us wat we need right at time...

it's just great to hear all this (that you started praying again & stuff) :) !!!!
 
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Originally posted by NCxj90
yeah im glad i started praying....i never really got into it till now...i started but it was just a thing to do.....but it means sometime now....im tired of living like this and wanna change.

Will, I pray that you want it so bad that you see it happen.

James chapter two says "do not merely listen to the word and so decieve yourself, do what it says!"
 
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Will, the one thing God keeps reminding me time and time again, His ways are not our ways. So many times we have everything all figured and then the floor drops out. I truly believes He allows cicurmstances to occur in our lives that make us drop to our kness and draw nearer to Him.

An older Christian friend of mine always used to tell me: "Emotional pain is the stepping stone for spiritual growth."

I can only speak for myself but this has held true time and time again.

From very painful situation(trials&tribulations) nearer to God do I draw, humbler He does make me, and He shows me to rejoice in all things.

I truly am nothing without God. I am thankful God has shown me alone I can do nothing that is helpful to myself or others.
 
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Originally posted by gunnysgt
Will, the one thing God keeps reminding me time and time again, His ways are not our ways. So many times we have everything all figured and then the floor drops out. I truly believes He allows cicurmstances to occur in our lives that make us drop to our kness and draw nearer to Him.

An older Christian friend of mine always used to tell me: "Emotional pain is the stepping stone for spiritual growth."

I can only speak for myself but this has held true time and time again.

From very painful situation(trials&tribulations) nearer to God do I draw, humbler He does make me, and He shows me to rejoice in all things.

I truly am nothing without God. I am thankful God has shown me alone I can do nothing that is helpful to myself or others.

well said, hear these words Will.
 
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yeah......I've so been feeling this especially when I was feeling down I drew so much closer to God....I mean wow..... this got you pray again and that's definately a great start !! :)

Father please restore NCxj90's life..
and let him expirience your peace and joy, fill his heart with these and let him feel safe with you no matter what the circumstances may look like.
Thank you for always providing. In Jesus' name. Amen :)
 
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