Our Pet Demons

We all have them. Addictions. Sins we keep going back to, regardless of what we do. It seems the ever-increasing punishment is never enough keep us from going back. At least, that's how it is in my case. It's not like we enjoy hurting God, but these sins are just something we struggle with. We don't want to do them, but we do.

My question: would you still date someone if they admitted to a "pet demon?"

yes. it'd be a turn on (not sexually but a major brownie point for that person is what i'm meaning). because, that's the kind of brutal honesty i love the most. its humble, based in humility and utmost honesty.

It depends on what it is.

Like Septemberskies said, it depends on what it is.

BlackFyre said:

We all have them. Addictions. Sins we keep going back to, regardless of what we do. It seems the ever-increasing punishment is never enough keep us from going back. At least, that's how it is in my case. It's not like we enjoy hurting God, but these sins are just something we struggle with. We don't want to do them, but we do.

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I think the biblical word for this is "idoltary" because Isreal struggled with much of the same symptoms when it came to her affairs.

My question: would you still date someone if they admitted to a "pet demon?"

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I don't see why not. We all have at least one. This goes far beyond the biggest ones like Alcolhol addictions. This can even mean little subtle stuff like having a few to many snacks or even working and striving for perfection.

depends on what it is

Do they let it sleep in their bed and give it a nickname and call it best friend? run....
Do they struggle against it and want so much to let it be gone but just can't get rid of it? then that's a different story and maybe you can help but consider:

Is it something that will affect your relationship as b/f+g/f finances, newlyweds. spouses any point down the line? then consider hard if you want to live with it too because it will be your struggle to help him/her with that struggle

would you be willing to fight against it with him/her? cause they will likely seek your help to overcome it if they can't do it on their own strength and they aren't trusting God to break it, or if it's not something that they alone in their power and God's can break, it will be your problem

How much do you love that person? enough to deal with their problems?

what nature are these problems in? sexual, fiscal, attitudes, actions, thoughts, etc? he/she will have to get past them or that person and you will struggle with them all the time you are together.....

How much does it matter to you and to them that they break free of it? enough to sacrifice anything else at all?

just some thoughts, sorry I don't have any hard and fast answers except for if they own it and make it their own and don't wanna let it go run away from a relationship.... otherwise, depends on what it is, what they mean to, what you mean to them and what the sin in question is....

depends what the thing is...whether or not it would have a huge impact on our lives, etc.
edited: There's a pretty large difference between serial killer and compulsive eater.

I agree it would depend what it was.

I don't really want to narrow this thread down to one particular "pet demon." However, for those in previous relationships, think of the things that were problems you or your ex-SO struggled with as individuals.

Ideas? Input?

When I first saw the title the first thing that went through my head was "wow someone has a cat like mine".

But seriously, it depends. If it is something they are willing to fight, I would be glad to try to help them overcome it. But if its something they try to justify or won't put any effort into changing, no I wouldn't continue dating them.

I wouldn't choose not to date someone if they had a "pet demon". Everyone has their own issues/struggles in life. The only thing that would determine whether or not I would enter into a relationship with that person is if I would be able to deal with the issue.

As long as they're not a danger to society, hurting me, my friends/family, or acting like a complete idiot, it doesn't bother me a bit. We've all got our struggles in life, and just because somebody's hooked on something isn't going to deter me from dating them.

as long as that demon isn't drugs or alcohol....or homicidal tendencies.

Food is my pet demon. I would be honest and up-front about it.

Honesty rates right up there with sense of humour so if a guy is honest about his flaws and doesn't try to hide them, he'll actually have a better chance of getting my attention/approval. (or whatever you want to call it)

Stratiotes said:

When I first saw the title the first thing that went through my head was "wow someone has a cat like mine".

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LOL, that was funny

As long as they were completely willing to try to give up that demon (with my help, of course), then sure, it'd be fine.