Did anyone else go this fast?

I think that this is not uncommon, not by any means. But every couple is on different timing. As of right now, the plan for my fiance and I is to get married in Summer 2009 when I finish with my undergrad degree...but it is all subject to change! however, my fiance wants to get his stuff together, as do I...so all that should be in place next summer, and we'll have a definite date by then...but it is definitely all subject to change! I have a friend who met his wife in August of 2006 ,and married in November...each couple is different!

Hmm. My boyfriend said all of those things but never took action.

Don't believe things people say.\, wait until you see action.

Now for me.. that was pretty much what happened. However, we waited 14 months to get engaged.

I would recommend taking a little longer, ESP if you haven't know them long... My hubby and I had been best mates for about 4 years before we started dating.

That sounds like absolutely every single couple that decides to wait to get married!
I wouldn't be too worried about it moving faster than expected. Spend the time you have now preparing for marriage.

The important information isn't in your post. How strong is your relationship? Do you know how to communicate well under tough conditions? Are you similar in background, faith, life expectations, education, etc.? (Not being the same isn't a game-breaker, but it would be good to give a courtship extra time to make sure you adapt to one another well.) Do you have similar expectations for marriage? Are you both able to be fully yourselves with each other? Do you express high regard and honor for each other, or do you fight a lot or stay superficial?

So, my answer is, "It depends."

We met September 2006, we're getting married September 2007, 1 year from the day we met

Time is required to REALLY get to know each other. To get past that facade that people generally put up in the early stage of relationships. If you feel God is leading you in that direction then be patient. If you feel God is saying go for it, then guess what....go for it. Pray hard and seek peace and wisdom regarding this decision. I don't think time should be your judge, but God's guidance.
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abacoian said:

We met September 2006, we're getting married September 2007, 1 year from the day we met

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We did the same thing: we met in June 2003 and married exactly one year later. Have been very happily married for 3 years now.

Getting to really know someone does take more time for some than for others. It depends on how serious you both are, how much you have in common, how honest you are (if you are comfortable enough from the start to tell everything about yourself, this can make your relationship develop quicker - but it really depends on who you are, I don't recommend it, don't force things - with us it happened naturally), how mature you are (we were 27 and 36, we knew what we wanted and we both don't rush into things), what your goals are, etc.

My husband and I got engaged two days after our first date, eight days after our first meeting. We knew each other extremely well - better than I've ever known anyone else - after eight days, so for us it wasn't too soon. We didn't make our engagement public until a few months later though, to give our parents the chance to meet us as boyfriend/girlfriend rather than their child's fiancé(e).

It's different for everyone.

My view may not be the most popular... but I think slowing down a bit might be wiser.
I have to admit that my husband and I met in december... he proposed a year later and we married half a year. By now we are a year married and still extremely happy, but I would STILL not recommend this to anybody.
I honestly believe that the people who marry quickly and manage to build up a succesful marriage are the exception, not the rule, especially if you make the decision when you are young. A great relationship will only become better over time and it will allow you to bloom together more and make your wedding even more special.

my thought is if you do know that you have met the one and you are both mature and know God has brought you together to be there for each other then why wait years to be with the one you can't be without? Don't get me wrong, I know tons of people say oh this is the one and make a big mistake, but I'm not talking about those, I'm talking about ones who are really for each other.

And I would think it would be extremly difficult to be in a non married relationship for years and not have sex and stay pure. I'm not saying it's impossible just difficult. I have saved myself for marriage and me and my fiance don't do anything at all questionable and the more you love some one the more you want to be as close to them as possible. I can't imagine being in a relationship for years with that kind of love and desire and not being able to express it. And if I were in a relationship for years and did not have that kind of love then I think that's questionable too. I think you should have a good relationship before marriage and be sure before you get married but your marriage should be able to bring you closer than you ever thought possible and it should be a whole new beginning of your relationship. But if you've reached that even before your married...then it doesn't seem good to me.

Anyway, I'm no expert, just know there is true love

P.S. The main key to any sucessful relationship is it takes 3, you, your spouse, God

Very much so.. but one year from first dating to marriage is quick at a young age.

canadiancarebear said:

He is proposing on our vacation, his parents confirmed that. They are so supportive and explained how he is getting the money for the ring. I really like his parents...

My mom on the other hand... whenever we have brought up the topic she says "WELL YOU'RE NOT TONIGHT" or something along those lines, won't give it any thought, can't talk about it at all... it is like she doesn't believe us.

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Sounds like your mom is a bit fearful of you getting married.

Congratulations!!! That's awesome!!!!!

canadiancarebear said:

Well, it is official, Andrew proposed Sunday night in Niagara Falls and it was perfect.

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Congradulations. . .

I would recommend you give it plenty of time before the wedding. I can not in good concious recommend an engagement after roughly 2 and 1/4 months of dating. But thats just me trying to apply logic to all of this which does not always work. This is your decision and you are old enough to make it.

And who knows, my parents where engaged 3 days after meeting and have been together 27 years. So quick engagements arn't without precident.

no not at all.
We met here, starting dating February '05, got engaged in May '05. and married February '06