Is verbal abuse all that harmful?

Debbi · Apr 4, 2004

Is verbal abuse all that harmful? I mean its not like I'm getting physically hit just verbally abused. it is causing me to change though but I can't do much without changing jobs. I get yelled at and stuff on my job and it is really stressful. I tried giving up burning myself to relieve the stress but now my chest hurts and I cry too easily. Sometimes, I think about suicidal thoughts or don't pay enough attention and forget things or block them out then get yelled at for not listening. Is it true what they say that "words hit harder than fist and cut sharper than a knife." I mean, Its just words.

LynneClomina · Apr 4, 2004

yes. yes. YES. words are harmful. there is power in words beyond physical deeds.

hun, i'd try to change jobs if you can. it seems to be affecting you strongly, and because you mention burning and blocking things out, you really really dont need the stress of that job. God will provide.

Rosa Mystica · Apr 4, 2004

Debbi said:
Is verbal abuse all that harmful? I mean its not like I'm getting physically hit just verbally abused. it is causing me to change though but I can't do much without changing jobs. I get yelled at and stuff on my job and it is really stressful. I tried giving up burning myself to relieve the stress but now my chest hurts and I cry too easily. Sometimes, I think about suicidal thoughts or don't pay enough attention and forget things or block them out then get yelled at for not listening. Is it true what they say that "words hit harder than fist and cut sharper than a knife." I mean, Its just words.

Debbi, I've been both verbally and physically abused in my lifetime (in the home, not at work). Verbal is worse. Physical abuse heals much more quickly than emotional. I've dealt w/ suicidal ideation myself- mostly in response to nasty words which wonderful father has flung at me. So please, don't take this kind of treatment as "just words."

oldrooster · Apr 4, 2004

Verbal abuse is far worse than physical, I was guilty of that for a long time to my now ex wife, after I let Jesus in my heart I have been working on making that up to my ex, and she finally has forgiven me.

pending · Apr 5, 2004

The difference: physical abuse stops hurting. Verbal doesn't.

If you sit and remember times you've smashed your thumb, you don't wince and cry out. Because it doesn't hurt to remember it. It's impossible to feel that pain ever again.

Sit and think about a few verbal assaults you've endured... the pain becomes real all over again.

Verbal abuse is harmful.

rockwell · Apr 5, 2004

i was verbally abused by bullies at school when i was in primary.
I still have issues in my life that reflect those bad days.

I know God was there and i thank Him becuase he's getting rid of all my issues one by one.

But yeah - verbal abuse can be 100 times worse than physical.

beetlequeendiva · Apr 7, 2004

Debbi said:
Is verbal abuse all that harmful? I mean its not like I'm getting physically hit just verbally abused. it is causing me to change though but I can't do much without changing jobs. I get yelled at and stuff on my job and it is really stressful. I tried giving up burning myself to relieve the stress but now my chest hurts and I cry too easily. Sometimes, I think about suicidal thoughts or don't pay enough attention and forget things or block them out then get yelled at for not listening. Is it true what they say that "words hit harder than fist and cut sharper than a knife." I mean, Its just words.

Debbi as a victim of sexual, physical and verbal (emotional) abuse I can see where you are coming from. Verbal abuse is really awful, it makes you feel very worthless, you really ought to change your job if it's doing this to you. You don't want to get suicidal - it is not worth travelling down that road. If you want to discuss this further message me.

Blessed75 · Apr 7, 2004

Debbi said:
Is verbal abuse all that harmful? I mean its not like I'm getting physically hit just verbally abused. it is causing me to change though but I can't do much without changing jobs. I get yelled at and stuff on my job and it is really stressful. I tried giving up burning myself to relieve the stress but now my chest hurts and I cry too easily. Sometimes, I think about suicidal thoughts or don't pay enough attention and forget things or block them out then get yelled at for not listening. Is it true what they say that "words hit harder than fist and cut sharper than a knife." I mean, Its just words.

It's just words but I happen to agree with the statement, "words hit harder than the fist and cut sharper than the knife". I have been verbally and emotionally abused and to tell you the truth, it's worse than physical abuse in my opinion. Words can scar a person. If you are really in this state of mind, I would suggest leaving your job. I don't know what your financial situation is but I know that God will take care of you. You don't need this, you don't deserve it and I have always said, "If it messes with my peace, it's got to go!". I will pray that God lead you in the right direction and give you the courage and strength that you need to deal with this situation. If you need to talk, please pm me - Take care and God Bless you hon! :hug:

California Dreamin' · Apr 8, 2004

verbal abuse is bad..
my mom was and now she does to me

beetlequeendiva · Apr 8, 2004

canadiancarebear said:
verbal abuse is bad..
my mom was and now she does to me

I know the feeling of that, my mum verbally abuses me - I don't even think she realises it but she says some pretty hurtful things at times.

daughter of the king · Apr 11, 2004

Sticks and stones can break your bones but words can foreva scar you.

Pink Angel · Apr 11, 2004

Debbi,

Hello! I am a victim of Verbal abuse . At the time you may not think it is anything big, but later on down the road, your self esteem drops. Words are hurtful and youdotn realize them till later. My advice is stop the abuse now or the depression you may be going through will get worse. I am a victim to verbal, physical, and emotional abuse by my dad, then i was sexually abused by my neighbor, and i am having hard times keeping my self esteem up.

Just try to get rid of the abuse as soon as you can, bc in the long run it will hurt you, and it will hit you hard when you least expect it.

I hope i have helped

God Bless,
Pink Angel

nickie8705 · Apr 12, 2004

Hi I am going through Verbal abuse myself at this time and it is just as harmful as any thing out there I face it every day from my parents and I still am trying to get over what they tell me I don't know how to fight it but let me tell you if you have a way out take it.

Get out while you can because words do hurt forever!

Risen Tree · Apr 13, 2004

As far as physical abuse goes, I've gotten over ever single incident that has happened to me in the past.

Verbal abuse is another matter. A few particular incidents of it permanently wrecked some of my relationships, damage that has not been repaired to this day.

Debbi · Apr 13, 2004

I think the lady is getting to another shift and she tries now atleast to be sometimes nicer or the manager gets on to her. But she wasn't nice to the other co-workers either last week when I was out sick either. Yes, I definitely know the affects of verbal abuse. I got a really screwed up childhood from being verbally abused. But the other abuses were there too. Daddy used to tell me, "You'll never amount to anything", "You're more trouble than your worth". And a whole lot more words. My family definitely were not huggers. I am 43 yrs. old and dad never has told me he loves me and I don't believe he does. Mom never told me either till I was about 14 and in a pentecostal church but it was too late for me to believe her. We still don't show affection but at Christmas, we give gifts though. What bothered me the most though was dad's friends molesting me and a brother-in law raped me and dad didn't do anything to help. ( Dad took others side against me). Dad's old and I barely talk to him on the phone and haven't been to mom and dad's since mid Feb. I don't really miss them, I can call mom when I want to. My husband also verbally abuses me for years but I can ignore him alot better though. The problem with verbal abuse is that I put up walls and don't mean to but sometimes said sharp things too and not realize how sharp I sounded. At work though, I would burn myself when I got yelled at to take some of the tension off.

brokenbananas · Apr 15, 2004

Verbal abuse is terrible and I am the consequence of someone who grew up in a very verbally abusive home. Wont' go into all the details, but I've spent many years in therapy and over the past 3 yrs, learned how to utilize an energy psychology method to help me get past a lot of things. I still have a long way to go, but I've also come a long way.

The voices I hear of my mom telling me I'm no good, or too fat, or that I'm stupid (even though I graduated Valedictorian of my class) no longer hurt me as much as they used to. God is working on me.

Cling to God's Word and what He says. You are a child of the King and so precious.

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