I have a question for you.
Being the Courting couples mod, and between the past few services at church, and an interresting conversation with my housemate the other day, I am noticing that more and more young couples (NOT married, seriously courting couples) are seriously struggling with sexual impurity.
Let me explain.
I see thread after thread of couples who are courting, or engaged who are really great christians, who are having a really really hard time with sexual impurity.
Last Sunday that is what our service was about. It was the most touching service ever. To see so many couples who went forward to pray who were dealing with this (whether it be sex before marriage, everything BUT sex, inappropriate content etc...)
Then last night, I had an interresting conversation with my roomate. She is an amazingly strong woman of God. She has a great relationship with her boyfriend of a few years, but she came to me last night because although they have not had sex, they have done everything but, and the only thing keeping them from sex is that she dosent want to get pregnate.
I hear from so many couples who say that its so easy, and that they want to, find excuses to, and then come to a point where they know it is wrong, but really dont want to stop.
So I have been thinking about it quite a bit since last night, and I am wondering just how many more couples are out there who are struggling with but feel so ashamed that they cant say anything to anyone. Are we, as christians so quick to judge and throw bible verses at them (when they clearly know what the Bible says about it) that they just dont know what to do? It's kinda like inappropriate content. A few years ago, everyone knew it was a big problem, but it was so embarassing that no one would ever talk about it, or admit to it. But we seem to be moving forward and there is support for those who are struggling with inappropriate content addiction. Not that the church has become accepting of it, but its open, and the church as a whole seem more accpeting towards those who are caught up in it.
I dont want to start a debate, we all know sex before marriage is wrong, but I am just trying to understand what is going on here.
But I do have a question for you:
Did you and your husband/wife wait to have sex until after you were married? If yes, were you a christian at the time. If so, how did you do it? Did you not have the desire to? Or did you really struggle with it?
Or did you have sex before marriage, because like many other young people you were caught up in this sexual sin? Also were you a christian at the time? Or no?
P.S. I also created a thread in the woman's forum, because I want to get unique responses form the women over there who may just be dating and not yet married.
Being the Courting couples mod, and between the past few services at church, and an interresting conversation with my housemate the other day, I am noticing that more and more young couples (NOT married, seriously courting couples) are seriously struggling with sexual impurity.
Let me explain.
I see thread after thread of couples who are courting, or engaged who are really great christians, who are having a really really hard time with sexual impurity.
Last Sunday that is what our service was about. It was the most touching service ever. To see so many couples who went forward to pray who were dealing with this (whether it be sex before marriage, everything BUT sex, inappropriate content etc...)
Then last night, I had an interresting conversation with my roomate. She is an amazingly strong woman of God. She has a great relationship with her boyfriend of a few years, but she came to me last night because although they have not had sex, they have done everything but, and the only thing keeping them from sex is that she dosent want to get pregnate.
I hear from so many couples who say that its so easy, and that they want to, find excuses to, and then come to a point where they know it is wrong, but really dont want to stop.
So I have been thinking about it quite a bit since last night, and I am wondering just how many more couples are out there who are struggling with but feel so ashamed that they cant say anything to anyone. Are we, as christians so quick to judge and throw bible verses at them (when they clearly know what the Bible says about it) that they just dont know what to do? It's kinda like inappropriate content. A few years ago, everyone knew it was a big problem, but it was so embarassing that no one would ever talk about it, or admit to it. But we seem to be moving forward and there is support for those who are struggling with inappropriate content addiction. Not that the church has become accepting of it, but its open, and the church as a whole seem more accpeting towards those who are caught up in it.
I dont want to start a debate, we all know sex before marriage is wrong, but I am just trying to understand what is going on here.
But I do have a question for you:
Did you and your husband/wife wait to have sex until after you were married? If yes, were you a christian at the time. If so, how did you do it? Did you not have the desire to? Or did you really struggle with it?
Or did you have sex before marriage, because like many other young people you were caught up in this sexual sin? Also were you a christian at the time? Or no?
P.S. I also created a thread in the woman's forum, because I want to get unique responses form the women over there who may just be dating and not yet married.