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Recent content by whatnow

  1. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    He's definately not "dad" to my kids. If I leave a room where he is, my kids will leave the room also. They don't really like him too much. He hardly even acknowledges that they are there. Except, if he wants them to do something. But, I do have to be fair, he does speak to them...
  2. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    I do feel much better just talking to you. I know counseling would be best. Counseling can never hurt, that's for sure. This has helped me greatly, too. Thank you sooooo much.
  3. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    Thank you sooooo much. I appreciate your prayers very, very much.
  4. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    I think he thinks that what he feels is best, is also best for me too. It's like he doesn't see me as an individual person. With individual needs and wants. He thinks that because he wants something, that I will want the same thing. Or, let's just say, he acts this way. He acts or plays...
  5. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    I know. I actually do see God in my life. Like for instance, putting my kids in this Christian school is a big blessing. And it has been also for my daughter. She has blossomed, big time. Thank you for your prayers also. I do feel better just talking about it. Thank you.
  6. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    Invisible meaning that no matter what I say, I might as well as be invisible, because he either doesn't hear me or it doesn't sink in, or he just doesn't care about my opinion. It goes in one of his ears. He shakes his head that he received my message. And the it speadily goes out the other...
  7. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    Thank you. I was so afraid that everyone would beat me up here. I know that I am not perfect. I also know that he's not perfect. But, when you never have sex, there is no intimacy. Sex is necessary. Even if it is just sex a couple of times in the beginning. There never has been any...
  8. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    LOL!!! Funny that you should say that.... See, when we do talk about our problems, I my main issue is that I am invisible in this marriage. I continue to be invisible. And it doesn't matter how many times I tell him, he doesn't hear me or it doesn't sink in, because........ I'm...
  9. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    Well, because of the fact that I lost my house and my credit is totally ruined now, I have been wondering if God didn't remove any and all resources from me, so that I couldn't leave. In otherwords, I have kind of felt that God wants me to stay, even though, I have wanted to "slip out the back...
  10. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    I guess I just figure, like I said, it's my lot in this life. I try to have like an imaginary wall around me and I try to stay happy and at peace, as best I can. It's a good thing that they have depression medication. LOL
  11. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    I thought that the showering problem was only due to something with me. Or, maybe because he was working too much. But, see, I just found out that he has this problem with his first wife also. I have told him about it. He asked me why I don't sleep in the bedroom anymore and I told him...
  12. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    I was going to leave him sometime into the first year of our marriage. I actually started to move some of my stuff back to my house. He is a great actor. He convinced me (even the 2nd time) that things would change.
  13. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    He was kind and caring. He seemed to me to be unlike any other man I had ever met. Boy was I deceived. We were dating and going to church together and the pastor told us to get married before we slipped and had sex. You know, at that point, he should have told me that it was impossible for...
  14. W

    DECEIVED BEFORE MARRIAGE

    I've read some of the other posts here and I'm a little afraid to open up for fear of being torn apart. So, I'll ask right up front to please be kind. :) I am having real problems in my marriage. First off, I don't really know why I am posting. Maybe because the problems are delicate...