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Recent content by vanillabean

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    Need help standing up for my Faith

    In my experience when you fail but your heart is in the right place, God absolutely will give you a chance to make it up, so get ready! :-)
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    In a major struggle...

    I think seeds of doubt are planted 100% on purpose, satan loves to whisper this crap in our ear! When it occasionally happens to me, not long after something in my life occurs that I am led to pray specifically for (someone is sick and needs healing, etc) and God freely answers the prayer...
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    Is it a mistake to send Christian kids to public schools?

    I am really torn on this, because currently my kid goes to a public school and is faced daily with issues like drugs, sex, homosexuality, evolution, etc. (she even had to opt out of a play the teacher wrote because many of the unmarried teen characters hooked up at the end of the show, and it...
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    Is Showing Cleavage Immodest? What Does the Bible Say?

    There really is a theme of self-centeredness with those that see nothing wrong with cleavage. Its like You're saying I don't care if you have a problem, *I* will dress the way I want, and You will just have to get over your issues. This is not the attitude of Christ. And because it's commonly...
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    Is Showing Cleavage Immodest? What Does the Bible Say?

    There's a difference between a "stupid" and a light hearted question. No need to get aggressive to try to make a point. For those who are bringing up the immodesty of other cultures is a bit like saying it's ok to jump off a cliff because everyone else is doing it.
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    I'm thinking about leaving my church. Should I?

    Sadly, there aren't very many believers anymore that are actually "practicing". It can be frustrating! If it were me, I would try a different church every other week to see if I could find one I felt more comfortable in. Doesn't hurt to try. You may also consider talking to a church elder about...
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    Is Showing Cleavage Immodest? What Does the Bible Say?

    Lol Here it is, the real reason certain men are defending this point so strongly- they want to see boobs ;)
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    Is Showing Cleavage Immodest? What Does the Bible Say?

    You've made a good point- a lot of people no longer have enough sense to feel uncomfortable when they are exposing their bodies. That is why we also institute the collarbone rule, it helps the judgements to be a little more black and white for those with a broken moral compass. If I remember...
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    Why do YOU believe in God?

    I've had so many direct answers to prayer in my life, it would be hard NOT to believe in God! I don;t know if that's a good answer, lol, but it's the truth.
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    What's your take on Joel Osteen?

    He's HOT :) But he was asked specifically if he thought that Jesus was the ONLY way to heaven - twice! And he did NOT confirm that. (I believe it was on Larry King) I instantly lost all respect for him and no longer listen to his sermons. Preaching the loving side of the Bible is good, but it is...
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    Do you try to go to church EVERY Sunday

    Yes. EVERY week- the only exception being an extreme illness (ie contagious, I dont want to spread that kind of love ;) and in fact im in college right now so I had to cut back to only once a week, but I look foward to not spending all my free time studying- thats when I will go Sunday eveinings...
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    We or someone should pull together and produce a full digital movie of the Bible...

    I've thought that too, how nice that would be. The media strongly saturates most aspects of American lives- the TVs are on at school, at the doctors and dentists offixe, you name it. Would love to see Christians get a bigger piece of that air time! Or a mini series, with episodes spanning over...
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    Do you like my poem?

    Beautiful, Love it. I could totally see that being made into a song!!
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    Is Showing Cleavage Immodest? What Does the Bible Say?

    Yes it is WRONG if it causes a person to lust. Men are especially driven by visuals so provocative clothing should be avoided- and in the world we're in today, you also must take care that you don't cause a female to lust, that may be struggling with homosexual tendencies. (If you are not sure...