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Recent content by up_to_Him

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    Is it really fair?

    I fall into that trap a lot. Actually, I'm not too sure if it's that similar, but before I became a Christian I was always a follower and hated making decisions and choices for myself. I'd rather have someone do it for me. I guess it was because I didn't like feeling responsible. After becoming...
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    Equating God with People?

    I know what you mean, I've been through the same thing. The reason I became a "Christian" was because of my ex-girlfriend. I didn't really believe, I was just doing it for her. Naturally, I equated God with her, so when things were bad between me and her things were bad between me and God. It...
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    Is it really fair?

    I think if you continue to talk to him then it is your problem. He's already told you that you are the answer to his prayers, meaning he is expecting something from you that you aren't going to be giving. That would be stringing him along. If you really have no desire for a husband you should...
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    What more can I do?

    I'm sorry that you have to go through this and I really admire and am inspired by your struggles for obeying God (don't let it go to your head-knowledge heh). I know what it's like to constantly be fighting against yourself and failing at times or most of the time. I feel like whenever I fail...
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    In really tough situation, need Godly advice (long)

    I'm surprised that you say you take breaks to rejuvenate by going to church. Why not try making friends from church and plugging yourself into a large group or a small group? I'm kinda having trouble doing that now at my hometown church because I just graduated college and I'm not really...
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    Is sin every necessary?

    Not quite sure about the answer to this one. Does this have anything to do with a scenario like a murderer asking you where you're hiding the person they're trying to kill is? Is it ok to lie in that situation? My answer would lean towards not answering them, that way you didn't lie and you...
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    Help with Criticism

    I deal with the same problem as well. Not sure if it's the same for you as it is for me, but my problem deals with pride and arrogance (I feel like all my problems seem to stem from pride). It helps me when I remember that I am not above everyone else. In fact I am probably worse than them and...
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    I forgot how to speak to the opposite sex

    true story. You shouldn't worry about impressing girls. You should be praying for your future spouse, whoever they may be. Pray that they have a spiritual desire for Christ. You shouldn't even have to be worried about finding a girl. When God feels that you are ready for someone He will bring...
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    co living and sexual relations.

    This verse makes sense. However, it says that "he shall giver the bride-price for her and make her his wife." If the act of sex itself meant they were married, then he wouldn't have to make her his wife afterward, would he? It sounds like the OT is saying that he should take responsibility for...
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    co living and sexual relations.

    Is it just me or am I completely not understanding what WW is trying to say? It seems like he is saying that it's ok to have sex outside of marriage because the act of sex itself would make them married? That doesn't really make any sense to me. There would be no point of talking about sexual...
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    Is it wrong to pray to be with someone when they love someone else?

    Hey, I've been in similar situations as you and I know what you're going through. It's tough. You have to remember though, if you truly love her, you would let her go and be happy. She's engaged to someone. If you were engaged with her, would you want someone else to come into your life and try...
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    Oh man!!

    This kinda makes no sense. It's like you know what you're getting yourself into with the whole wounds opening up and stuff and having a fight. You know that the answer is to not have contact with her and that it helped you drink less (although being mean with her to stop talking to her was...
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    Oh man!!

    If you hate her, you should forgive her and try to stop hating her. As for being friends, that's not really possible if you really think about it. You can't treat her like a sister and Christ and be there for her without ulterior motives if you have strong feelings for her. Everything you do is...
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    Christian ladies, do God WANT you to get married?

    There are pros and cons to both sides of the argument. I don't think the Bible supports one preference over the other (single or married). To each his/her own. Of course there is a possibility that you could get more done for Jesus if you were single. But the opposite is true as well. No one...
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    Wanting to press the pause button

    Thank you for your encouraging words! I only have God to thank and not myself for striving after Him. Fortunately for us, the biggest reason why we were attracted to each other was because of our abilities to help each other grow spiritually and become closer to God. When you put God first...