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Recent content by turkle

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    Family Issues

    I had the same mother. It took me years to learn how to set firm boundaries with her, and gently but firmly enforce them. I realized that she was walking all over me because I allowed it... it was time to change myself, not her. Once I grew a strong back bone, she backed off and I had much more...
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    Chronic Arguer in Need of Advice

    When someone says something to you with the intention of being helpful, and you immediately say the contrary, the other person feels like you don't value their attempt to help. People want to be validated... and I would bet that you do too. I have found out the hard way that in order to be...
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    Struggling?

    Anger is a natural response to a perceived wrong. When the Bible cautions us not to sin in anger, it is talking about our response to anger. If our typical behavior is to lash out, then we are in sin. Paul tells us that like Jesus, we are to have a gentle spirit. So the key is to tap into the...
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    Feeling alienated from the church

    It sounds like you have had this experience of being on the outside for most of your life. Which leads me to believe that the important thing to look at for answers is the common denominator. That would be you. I've known people over the years who stayed on the periphery of social groups. They...
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    It sounds like you are more interested in debating than evangelizing. I was like that too when I was young. What I learned was that all of my debates accomplished nothing, other than hard feelings. My focus shifted to what I know is true about the Word, and not trying to discredit the belief of...
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    How do you Release anger ?

    Anger is the result of not getting what you want. It's helpful to identify the thing you want and figure out either how to get it, or let it go. If you can do something about it, then do so. If you can't, then understand that and focus on the things you CAN do. Then thank God for the things you...
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    Possibly Narcissistic Friend is driving me INSANE

    I wonder what it is in you that has allowed this person so much power over you?
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    Dealing with spouses additions and depression

    I recommend seeking out a church that has Celebrate Recovery. They have a sub-section for sex addiction, both for men and women. It is highly confidential and could be a more comfortable place to deal with her addiction.
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    Why God created worship music

    Music, and most forms of art, comes from the overflow of the heart. Think about how many songs are love songs. When one loves, one wants to make or listen to songs about the one they love. I would imagine that when you first fell in love that you may have found a song that expresses those...
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    Need prayers/advice please! Broke up after 15 years

    Please forgive my going off topic, but could you please cite the source of this devotional you quoted?
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    Is it wrong for me to be content where God put my Family?

    When you say that you think she is uncomfortable, it leads me to believe that you haven't actually asked her how she feels about your home. The obvious solution is that you need to have an honest conversation with her about her concerns. Also, since you said that this was your home before you...
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    Possibly Narcissistic Friend is driving me INSANE

    If this story is true, then you are in one of the most toxic relationships I've heard. Your friend is racist, manipulative, gas lighting, narcissistic and cruel. Why you want to maintain a relationship with someone like this is beyond me. He is no champion of Christianity. Jesus said that you...
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    Am I the problem or are my family members a couple of them just not taking responsibility for the way they disrespectfully treat me and then all finge

    It's near impossible to answer that question without more information. However, when I find that when the same thing happens over and over to me, that I am the common denominator.
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    Is it a sin (not honoring my father) to call my father whom abandoned me by his first name in prayer?

    Not at all. He is a sperm donor and a stranger to you, not a father. It's wonderful that you pray for him at all. Call him whatever makes you comfortable. God knows.
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    Emotional Abuse

    You said it yourself: he doesn't want to. You can't force someone to do what you want them to do. You have told him that this is abusive behavior, you are supporting him, and you are doing all you can do. In the end, the choice is his.