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Recent content by ttugrad01

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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    nope - you're using the word WE - I have no control over WE, only ME. So I'm going to offer MY heart to MY marriage and to MY wife, and hope for a miracle - if SHE refuses, I have no control over that.
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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    ok - having a tough day. Keeping my DBing techniques in mind......here's my question. Once I find a job, which should happen in the next few weeks, there will be nothing in our way to finalizing this. She could call at any moment and say "Let's finish it." I definitely do not want this. But...
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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    yes, I agree. so how do I get across to my little ones that marriage is a holy union? the response will be - "But you and mom didn't stay together!" .....been battling w/ this one lately. will be tough to explain w/o flaming mom.
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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    i've already found life to be WAY easier right now - i see my kids a lot (me and the 8 month old had a long ol' nap on the couch watching football) and it's a lot less hectic. Re-arranged the house, painted some walls - had some friends over. it's PEACEFUL. BUT, I want my family, ya know? I...
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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    thanks both of you - as for the vacation - "Honey, I want to go see a friend in MN - she'll pay for everything and the kids will have a ball -and you can get all those projects done around the house".....and I did. I have tried the "Whatever it is I've done, I'm sorry. You're making a...
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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    to continue.......I'm not perfect, never claimed to be. how could somebody that claims to be a Christian destroy their family? I read a quote once - "God doesn't necessarily hate all forms of divorce...but He does hate every reason for it." And that's true - in order to divorce, there must be...
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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    thanks guys - it's just..................sad. She's not an alcoholic, honestly. nor am I. the reason is being fabricated to justify her actions. Since the filing, she has also accused me of adultery, which I have never, repeat never, been anywhere even close to doing. It's all smoke and...
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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    thanks Autumnleaf - drinking is like anything - once it's an "issue", you have to explain your way out of it.....so no, i'm not lying, and i don't blame you for your suspicions - in fact, SHE drank substantially more than me. but i saw it for what it was - nothing. she was just looking for a...
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    some advice needed - and of course, prayers!

    what a great forum! I just recently found this place, and have been reading like crazy, but thought it time to chime in with some requests for help and prayers.... married 5.5 years, 2 kids, ages 3.5 and 8 months. A beautiful courtship and marraige until about a year and a half ago. I lost 2...