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Recent content by Tinkerbells

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    My Marriage is in trouble

    I am glad you are in counseling for yourself. I still see you poininting the blame and putting another man ahead of your husband. I get that your husband has friends as well, but unless you have proof they are sending inappropriate comments about his appearance, you can't just use that as...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    I am noticing that few people have read all my posts. To answer your first question, because she made it my business. I am one of the few people that know about the abortion and she has discussed it in detail with me on several occasions. It's just that revently, her viewpoint changed...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    If there is any judgment, it's on the sin, not her. I can promise you that. As you can tell from many others that have posted, the bible maintains that sex be between a husband and wife. If you don't agree with them needing a paper to prove that, then OK, but how can you justify her saying she...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    I would never confront her angrily or in a rude way. If I ever brought it up, it would be in a loving and kind way. I would probably ask questions first too instead of just jumping in.
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    I do know her situation. I already said i don't want to judge but it's hard not to because of what she is doing. The bible does say you can judge as long as you are not being a hypocrite. I believe that we see the bible differently and unfortunately I will not change my mind on the fact thay...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    I agree, it may not be the right thing to do and I think especially since we are communicating less and less everyday. When she brought up the topic, it was when we were had met up and she was holding one of her babies. I told her that God brought her a baby at the right time. I maybe shouldn't...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    Everyone, thank you so much for all your kind words! I am glad that most of you see where I am coming from regarding the issue. I too have thought that she couldn't possibly be repentant if she tells me she feels having an abortion "was the right thing to do" years later and after attending...
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    My Marriage is in trouble

    You stated: To be honest, I have been friends with this young man since before my husband. My husband needs to step up and do what he is supposed to do and then he won't have to worry if someone finds me attractive. Im still working on me but this with him is getting old and frustrating. The...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    I am not entirely sure, but all the non denominational church's in our city typically have almost an identical statement of faith and they dissagre with abortion based on how closely they adhere to the bible, so I don't see how they could favor that decision at her church. Part of their wedsite...
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    My Marriage is in trouble

    Honestly, this conerns me. You should not have any communication with men like this. It's entirely inappropriate and would make any husband upset and possibly pull away from you. I will give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you perhaps don't realize this is damaging to you relationship...
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    Need advice about the Christian way to deal with people who hurt you or who you don’t like

    Thank you so much for this kind and uplifting message. You are one of the few that have been kind on this forum site. I’ve come across a lot of bullies (bullying myself and several others) and I’m not sure why. I will take your words and do my best to get myself out there again. I know it’s...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    You are correct, but he also said go and sin no more. i’m not saying that we will never sin, but if a sister in Christ is living in sin, are you saying that another Christian should not say anything? I’m truly trying to find the right answer here. The scriptures I pointed out say that you should.
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    "If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. "But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sisterc but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    Thank you for explaining the abortion situation. Regarding her being an unwed mother, I only take some issue with it because she has not intention of marrying him and is living with him and being intimate. This question really stems from the scriptures I cam across that were talking about...
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    My Christian friend had an abortion

    I do forgive her. I’ve never held this over her head or mentioned it. I’m just confused about how she feels she made the right decision. I am simply trying to understand how you can state that after coming closer to God, that your decision to have an abortion was a good one. I’m not judging her...