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Recent content by theonelight

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    Seeing The Good In Others

    I have lived most of my adult life resenting where I lived, resenting where I worked, resenting this, that or the other, or otherwise being dissatisfied and complaining about how terrible I thought the world was. I have really undergone a significant transformation in my life. My...
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    I understand where you are coming from. And I believe you are correct. I have only discussed the negative aspects of my mother's behavior. In reality, I am overwhelmed by how loving, supportive, kind and patient and strong my mother is. I was so hurt by that one comment, and so focused on...
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    The same holds true for sexuality. I'm very neurotic in this area. My mom would taunt me if I made any attempt to style my hair. I could not pursue any of the latest fashions when I was in school. It's very embarrassing to talk about this.
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    I'm very neurotic when it comes to money. I hate to say it, but a lot of it does stem from one's upbringing. My parents, esp. my mother would just go ballistic if she found out I spent any money. Even a $3.00 trip to mcdonalds would make her incensed. If she found out I spent any money at all...
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    Thank you all for your kind words. Please do understand that I have forgiven her and still love her, but have boundaries about contact and communication, which is that I do not feel comfortable with either. Beyond that, I am learning more and more about the human psyche. A significant...
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    Naturism (nudism)

    I don't have a problem with it. I just hope nudists are sensible enough to use sunscreen between 10 AM and 4 PM. :P
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    I don't think I'm dwelling on it necessarily. I think that as the pain subsides, I can view the situation more clearly and with greater insight. I take a strong interest in psychology (as we all do to some degree), so people always fascinate me. My mother will not change. She told me so many...
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    I have taken to watching a lot of crime dramas on tv. And this is despite my better judgement since I am well aware that these tv shows and media in general is brainwashing. Nonetheless, some of the documentary style programming, while highly sensationalized, and of course extraordinarily...
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    I was going to post something but the formatting has gone completely haywire.
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    I release my anger and resentment to the universe. I focus on my peace and development and growth and happiness. I am happier today than I have been in a long while.
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    Thank you so much seeingeyes for your kind and thoughtful words. I am led to realize that abuse can take many forms: physical and sexual abuse are the most widely condemned and obvious, but abuse can take a much more subtle form, and can be just as damaging since it is far more difficult to...
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    Forgiving a Parent?

    I forgive her. I hold no animosity towards her. Practically speaking, we don't have to deal with each other, so there's no day to day issue that concerns me. I'm curious: how would you react to this situation? Both emotionally and practically?
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    Walmart.

    The truth is revealed. You got nothin.' ^_^ Weak bluff yields even weaker acknowledgement of defeat. :)
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    Walmart.

    Insisting you have the evidence is no substitute for actually presenting evidence. Nice try, though. ^_^
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    Walmart.

    Insisting you have evidence is not the same thing as actually having evidence. :clap: