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Recent content by theJam

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    Marriage heading towards divorce

    Man that sucks. I woke up New Years day to an email from a friend with a MySpace link to my wife's new boyfriend. He's an Abercrombie model, loves to party, and there are photos of them together all over it.
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    Thanks again everyone. Christmas was tough. I sent her a Merry Christmas text message and received nothing back. Her step-father also called me and told me that sending that was destructive. I don't understand, but I don't think I ever will. We aren't divorced yet, but I feel as if moving...
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    Thanks for all your help everyone. The marriage isn't going to continue. I don't think this is like giving up. I've exhausted everything though. She has dropped all of her friends and is moving to a new area, church, and job. She really never wanted to marry me, and she now never wants to...
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    I'm not sure. I know what you mean by demanding and and being accusatory, and how it would hurt no matter how honest and true my words would be. At this juncture I would not be accusatory or demanding. I would be honest, and loving, without breaking down and crying. Firm would be a good...
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    I did read the book. It has helped me greatly. I believe my wife has been instructed by her lawyers to cease all communications with me. It sucks. I'm not admitting defeat yet. I have a few inside people that really understand the situation now and know what they need to do to help her...
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    Marriage heading towards divorce

    Brother... I know exactly what that is like. My wife currently has this "Why don't you listen to me, I'm leaving and you should know that it's better this way, we just weren't good together, too many incompatibilities." That's bush league grade school stuff man. Didn't we figure that out...
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    You are so right! Also, I am taking a stance and commanding respect from my wife who is so blatantly disrespecting me and the marriage covenant with God that she made. I won't be a doormat any longer, and hopefully such a crisis for her (to be without control anymore) might push her in the...
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    Marriage heading towards divorce

    I too am getting a bike. You want cheap? Try a used Yamaha Star Classic or Road Star. If you don't mind a 2000 - 2002 you can usually get a GREAT bike for around 3 - 8 grand. They aren't bad, and they are very reliable. If you get one used, the value you put in stays better than a new one...
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    I have good news friends! It's been about 9 days since I contacted my wife. She did ask me for money (My half of our bills.) yesterday via email but I kept the response short and sweet, much like her request was. Since I stopped lashing out and contacting my wife, I must tell you all, that I...
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    Marriage heading towards divorce

    I see where you are coming from Autumnleaf, and I have to say that I agree. But in NewWarrior's case (and mine as well) it's not over yet. She has gone and may never come back, but it's between NewWarrior and God to decide when is the time to let her go. But, I truly believe that the loyalty...
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    Thanks for the added encouragement. I am going to stop contact with her and her family for 1 week and then consult my Pastor again. We both go to the same church so he has asked me to visit a church in another town for the time being so that God can work on her without distraction. I know she...
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    I will look into those books. After this update I will order them both from Amazon. Ok, more weird stuff. Yesterday morning I got into work at about 7:30AM and there was a message on my desk phone. I sat down, dialed in and started listening. I'm a computer programmer and lots of things...
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    Marriage heading towards divorce

    And even then it is that much more admirable still! We are all undeserving of everything we have. God will reward your loyalty to your wife, no matter what she deserves. If the grace of God pours out of you in this way, I believe you will find great favor in Him! JT
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    If my wife finally files, should I contest? I don't want principle to get in the way of our future (if there is one) but I also don't want her to think I'm giving up and rolling over. I can give it to God and let him heal the situation, but her stubbornness and hard heart will surely have her...
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    Christmas present for spouse?

    I think I'll get my wife something, but I'm not sure what. Maybe.