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Recent content by Soccerbeth

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    Female Accountability Thread

    You're right. Every victory matters, and I know I will have more. I did well this week, not so well this afternoon and this evening. I'd love for this forum to be better for accountability and interaction, but it seems like people post very infrequently. I thought about posting here...
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    Female Accountability Thread

    Thank you. Unfortunately, I have stumbled several times over the past month. Visual triggers are very difficult for me to overcome. And with summer here, there are a lot of triggers. :( I'm really struggling, even writing this today in this coffee shop. :(
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    Female Accountability Thread

    So it's been over a week now since I have compulsively masturbated. This may not sound like much, but it has been years for me since I could say this. Even still, this is a huge temptation for me today. I'm really trying to keep momentum with this victory, but I'm being visually triggered...
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    Confessions of a woman who is visually stimulated.

    Hi kdm1984, You are not alone. I have struggled with this too. For me, it was same-sex visual stimulation. Talk about locker rooms and such being tough! I just wanted you to know that you are not alone.
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    Female Accountability Thread

    I have been doing really well lately. I was making some good strides in therapy and have had some really good weeks lately. I had some really triggering events happen last night. This morning I woke up and I just couldn't get out of bed. It took almost two hours for me to muster up the...
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    Female Accountability Thread

    Hi Kristen, If I posted in the recovery forum, are the team members female? I have visibility to the womens forum, but I don't want to post some things publicly or to men. Thanks.
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    Female Accountability Thread

    I'm so sorry for the sinful things that were done against you and for the present struggles you have as a result. I very much understand the temptation to fantasize about women and watching porn. You are not alone.
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    Female Accountability Thread

    Thank you. I guess I struggle a lot with guilt and shame over past/present coping behaviors and decisions, most of which it probably wouldn't be appropriate or wise to talk about here. I judge myself a lot and I guess I just expect to be judged pretty harshly by most others. I appreciate what...
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    Female Accountability Thread

    Hi Kristen, Thank you for the thoughtful reply. This has been one of the kindest and gentlest replies I have encountered. You have good points. I agree that changing location can help, not being alone, self-talk, and journaling. I find I have the greatest difficulties where I can't really...
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    Female Accountability Thread

    Hi everybody, I really need some prayer, encouragement, and/or help right now. As I have mentioned before, I was sexually and physically abused as a little girl by a female figure close to me. As I have worked thru this in therapy, I have found that I equate physical closeness with a female...
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    Female Accountability Thread

    Just now seeing this as I haven't been on in quite a while. Thank you for this. Unfortunately, I can't DM yet (maybe not enough posts? I dunno...) but I would love to connect at some point. Thanks for the prayers. I need them :)
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    Female Accountability Thread

    Hi, please pray for me. Because of my past sexual abuse, I find myself battling compulsive masturbation quite often. This weekend is one of those times. I had a hard week and yesterday on the way home from work, I just started. I have been locked in a loop of masturbation for the past 24...
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    Female Accountability Thread

    That would be wonderful. I think we both need a few more posts before we can communicate via PM, but when that is an option for us, I think it could be helpful. Thanks.
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    habitual sin - porn & masturbation

    Hi Megan, I have struggled with the exact same thing. I will pray for you. Feel free to reach out if you need a sister who truly understands. Beth
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    Female Accountability Thread

    Hi ladies, please pray for me. I have been doing well for a while but today, due to some hurts in my heart and some poor coping mechanisms, I found myself looking at pornography today of other girls masturbating and orgasming. I did not touch or [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] myself, though I have been tempted...