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Recent content by SLW

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    No more feelings

    I am very torn and I have received mixed opinions, leave/stay/separate. . . My mind gets numb from trying to decide. Thank you for understanding.
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    No more feelings

    And if I act respectfully and nothing changes, then what... I feel I have but maybe I wasn't? Am I crazy to think adults can compromise? He now has decided he wants to move out of the country when he retires (8 yrs) if I trusted him with my feelings and knew he would be there for me if I have...
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    No more feelings

    So he can mistreat me as part of a Godly marriage? Submit to him, hmmm lets just say the last 9 years I have given him what he wants. I have tried just watching him work on his car and offered to help in whatever he is doing. I have asked for input about our kids and respected his opinion. I...
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    No more feelings

    I agree. But I struggle with "for better for worse". . . I know God hates divorce, that is another reason I've stayed. I just keep thinking if I do the right thing things will change. But maybe God doesn't want me to stay in this marriage and that is why things haven't changed. It is all so...
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    No more feelings

    I guess my bottom line is, we both have made mistakes, I'm sure I have hurt him, I am not perfect. But I feel he has crossed the line. How much does one take, I feel I deserve some of his distance because he feels "I moved him and ruined his life". When is it enough to pay for my mistake of...
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    No more feelings

    As for focusing on myself, that was a slow build, I used to focus everything on him, for years. What he wanted, what he needed. I even did some things that went against my idea of love making to fulfill his needs. . . I turned the focus to me when nothing was being reciprocated. It is hard to...
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    No more feelings

    I haven't heard of the 30 day love challenge. How does it work? Again, I'm not sure I dare to trust him with my heart. Can this work if I don't? What I find interesting, is the one time he would talk to me for a short time (right before going into the mental health hospital, I broke down...
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    No more feelings

    I have been committed, but as for love . . . I can't say that I do. I will say that I stopped saying it first. I think because I was so upset about the flirting and looking at other women....on top of us not being able to talk about feelings. He did have a problem with internet porn for...
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    No more feelings

    Okay, I will try to be more specific about my situation. Sorry in advance for it being so long. Our marriage has never been great, I probably shouldn't have married him. He gave me an ultimatum and I got anxious about being alone and said yes. There were signs when we dated, if we would...
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    No more feelings

    Hello, I am new here and reaching out because I am at a cross roads. My husband and I have had a very rocky marriage.... some what I consider abuse... emotional abandonment... Due to this I do not trust him with my feelings. I am trying to decide what to do, leave or stay. He is not a...