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Recent content by shrinking_violet

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    How to bear witness to the truth of the Trinity

    You're right, that verse is referring to the law of the Old Testament, not how to bear witness to nonbelievers. I thought I could reuse the analogy in another sense (Paul wasn't referring to literal food, I don't think?) but now that I think about it more it distracts from my point and arguably...
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    How to bear witness to the truth of the Trinity

    This analogy stretches where the beauty of the sunrise is subjective when the truth of the Trinity is absolute. The difficulty in explaining a beautiful sunrise lies in being able to convey an experience to another person that you alone have (i.e. your personal feelings on beauty in relation to...
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    How to bear witness to the truth of the Trinity

    The coming to Christ is the step two, the meat if you will. Sorry if I implied you talk about the Trinity to the exclusion of coming to Christ. I meant to describe how the pluralist thinks rather than what the actual truth is. Pluralists don't care if one is earthly and the other is heavenly...
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    How to bear witness to the truth of the Trinity

    I'd like to make an argument for a good way to bear witness to the truth of the Trinity to nonbelievers who think that all religions are equally true (aka pluralists). I assume that you are either: a) A Christian who both believes and understands the truth of the Trinity. You may find some...
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    Sex and marriage

    Never figured this one out while I was a Christian, and my current thoughts on the matter are against the rules of this site, so all I have are the questions I wished I knew the answers to back when I was a Christian. What does "fool around" mean? What acts? What acts are you "waiting" until...
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    Relationship Advice Needed

    So let me get this straight: you believe premarital sex is a sin. You have had premarital sex with someone, which is a sin. You are judging another person for doing the same sin you did yourself. Sure, she may have slept with more dudes than you, but the rule says 0 premarital sex. 1 and say 30...
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    How to find a wife

    Yikes, people. No one has the power to force you to be their friend. If you don't want to be friends with someone, don't spend time with them. You can just walk away. Use your wooing energy on someone more receptive. The original advice is missing that you should be clear about your intentions...
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    Advice for a 20 year old virgin.

    Sex =/= bonding It can include bonding if you let it, but it's not a one-to-one. You're feeling lonely? Talk with people. Online or irl, find something that interests you to discuss. Just a guess off the top of my head, you might want to chat with another person about your faith or open world...
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    My life comes crashing down again in my mid 20's

    Hi real godless heathen here :) You sound like you could use a hug. Offering a virtual one if you'd like it. You've been through a lot, and it is totally understandable that you would feel bad about how things went down. You are worthy of love and care. Your feelings are valid. Things can get...
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    Looking for a Devotional or Bible Study with my S/O.

    Throwing an idea out there: pick a book/chapter/story from the Bible to read on your own and discuss what you learned once a week. Not sure why it has to be more complex than that tbh. You already kinda suggested it yourself. If you're not sure what to pick, ask her what she'd like. If you...
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    What should a serious couple be doing to find out if their relationship will last?

    There's no test to pass so that you get an A+ in Relationshipping. Some people rush things and burn out quickly. Some people over-dissect and grow tired of each other. Just doing the opposite of what doesn't work, also doesn't work. You have to give up on certainty. You don't know and you'll...
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    Making decision without consulting the other half

    I don't think you're overreacting. It's fair to say that operating under the "single" mentality is an understandable default for him AND that not being considered upsets you enough that it needs to change. Sometimes these things aren't either or but actually both and. You don't have to put up...
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    I need boy advice. (Interdenominational relationship, non-denom and Catholic)

    This sounds like a problem that can be fixed with higher standards. If 2 boys are pining over you at the same time, then you can afford to be picky. If your standards were higher, which boy wouldn't make the cut? If they're both equally bad, wait for someone who's even better than both. Sounds...
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    You're a Virgin? Challenge Accepted!

    Our society builds up a massive lie about sex. But there is nothing on this earth that could ever possibly feel anywhere close to as good as how society makes sex sound. Not even sex. In my personal history, the feeling I had back when I was a Christian that the spirit of the Lord was inside me...
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    Boyfriend lusts after pictures of skimpy women

    As a person who regularly looks at much more sexualized pictures of women, I find your bf's justifications gross. Who cares if the women are online? If it's not ok to do it to real women, then it's not ok to do it to real women online. (The inverse is also true, but I won't argue that point.) If...