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Recent content by SadFella

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    The love of my life has left me.

    jminnesota, It was a combination of things (I'll list them, but not in any particular order)... Her family wanted us to support them financially -- basically, her mother was a lazy divorcee that when it came time for her to need a car to get to the entry-level job that she could barely hold on...
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    The love of my life has left me.

    How about an update? Well... here we are in 2012! I'm married to a terrific girl and moved from NJ to FL... I have a wonderful 4 year old boy and a very strong-willed (aren't they all?!) young lady that is 2 years of age. My wife is the most wonderful, tolerant, hard working and smartest girl...
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    The love of my life has left me.

    Years later... Wow! I just had to find this thread, yet again. Amazing how you can look back and read/see/feel from so long ago. Well, the girl I met is now my wife and has been for over three wonderful years. We have two wonderful children - 2 years old and 2 months old. I ask her...
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    Walking away from family vent session. Long and can be graphic at times.

    I can agree to not wish hell on them, at this point I would just like to know they were dead so I would never have to worry about them manipulating my future children or family and allowing the cycle to perpetuate. If I knew of away where they could live AND not become a threat down the road...
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    Walking away from family vent session. Long and can be graphic at times.

    Thanks for moving this topic... Sorry I didn't see this before. I feel "odd" to see it in "Survivors of Abuse" -- I guess just because I've been told by them for so long that I wasn't abused and that the way I grew up was "normal"... Crazy isn't it. Even at my age, 35, to think that all that...
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    Walking away from family vent session. Long and can be graphic at times.

    You (and others) couldn't be more right. I took the "I don't want your money" road a long time ago -- and the attacks got even worse. The level to which I was made to feel like a loser by my "parents" increased to new heights. Even today -- yes, just moments ago, I received an email from them...
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    Walking away from family vent session. Long and can be graphic at times.

    My parents were both raised Christen but have since have had nothing to do with Christ, God or the Church -- they view all of it as "brain-washing" and any time a person says they are Blessed or the like the cringe. The only purpose God has in their life, as far as I know is to pray for things...
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    Walking away from family vent session. Long and can be graphic at times.

    Thanks for sharing! Ah, the fishing story -- yes that sound familiar -- I was constantly "let down" -- I would get alot of the "we'll do this and that" and then I would do something trivial, and then BOOM! That would be the excuse to not keep that promise. I remember when I was married, my...
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    Walking away from family vent session. Long and can be graphic at times.

    I'm not totally sure that is the right forum for my question, but here I am. What I'm about to write is pretty graphic and pretty scary stuff -- I've though long and hard about writing it before I started... I'm in a situation with my parents that has taken me years and years to come to terms...
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    The love of my life has left me.

    Well here we are... almost 3 years later! I just had to find this thread and thank everyone. It is simply amazing how things in life change. I have learned a lot about myself -- and it really is true. Every cloud *does* have a silver lining! Life, for the most part, couldn't be better. I'm...
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    The love of my life has left me.

    Thank you to everyone. Little by little I have been taking down the pictures. I have to say, it isn't easy to do. I feel like I'm giving up or something when I take down each picture. But I know that I have to take care of myself physically, mentally/emotionally in order to not allow myself...
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    The love of my life has left me.

    marshava, I've been praying outloud, to myself, and everyway you can imagine. Believe me. I know that things happen for a reason, and I understand that. But I have not gotten any sign. I wish I have. Breetai, LOL, you never know -- somehow, I don't think that is the case, some other kind...
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    The love of my life has left me.

    The pictures and stuff around the house are what make it really hard. I love and miss her so much that I don't want to take them down, yet I know as part of the healing I need to do that. I look at all the pictures and think about all the memories and realize that things aren't like that...
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    The love of my life has left me.

    Sadly, things are moving in the direction of divorce. I wish there was more to say, but there really isn't. God knows I would have done *anything* to safe our marriage. Sadly, my wife did not feel the marriage was worth saving. Make no mistake about it, I still love my wife very much and am...
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    The love of my life has left me.

    Rising Tree, It was for her "Individually" what I guess that means is that mail that comes to our street address, made out ONLY to her name -- gets diverted to a new address... I don't have that address... I don't know if the Post Office would give it, but I have to figure they would (??)...